Does "Chad" exist?

TheNightWind777 · 2018-03-18T10:27:45+00:00

There is no such thing as 'Chad'. What women (and men) find attractive is highly subjective with each individual. There are some of both sexes who are generally regarded as 'handsome' or 'beautiful' by most of the opposite sex; but it's not universal.

czarrie · 2018-03-18T14:51:25+00:00

When it comes to this thinking, all I can say is,

Play stupid games, win stupid prizes

If you want to play the role of Chad you will get a girl who wants a Chad in her life. If you want something else, something more meaningful, you're fooling yourself. It's as simple as that.

rainbowbarfff · 2018-03-18T17:27:48+00:00

Sure! I know a “Chad”. He’s a tall, caramel skinned, beautiful man who, for years, had a conveyer belt of women at his disposal in his 20s. He’s 35 now and wants a genuine relationship but tbh he’s pretty ruined. I mean, he’s also getting up there in age where hitting on girls 25 and under has turned into a joke. He’s handsome AF and despite what redpill likes to promote -young women aren’t going to think you’re datable if you’re too old. He can’t handle a disagreement without resorting to seeking someone else (a tactic that I promise you does not go well) and the type of girl he’s used to relating with? Well, let’s just say that as his close female friend the first thing I’ve learned to ask is “so is the stripper pole in her bedroom or in the living room?”.

He’s a “Chad” but to be fair he’s not following redpill, he’s following Latin Machismo which is practically the same thing.

UnlimitedExtraLives · 2018-03-18T10:39:16+00:00

Look, dude, the answer is yes and no. Just like women, there's a lowest common denominator that guys can hit that people find attractive. You don't have to check those boxes if you don't want to and different things will be preferred by different people. "Chad" is just a villain for dudes that view themselves as below average and need someone to be at fault for their insecurity. Yes, if you are fit women will talk to you expectantly just like a fit woman will have the same from men.

You can't "become" Chad because you will always have shortcomings and insecurities just like everyone else and Chad is meant to be a standard nobody can live up to. He's good at everything you're not, succeeds where you fail and is every opponent that's ever beaten you. Why do you think think the incels have so many run ins with "Chad" if Chads are such a scarce resource for women to fight over? Do you want to know what redpillers "frame" is? It's their ability to convince themselves/others that they are Chad. That they are unbeatable, immovable and unquestionable. It's why they're able to speak with authority on literally anything: they've already convinced themselves they can't be wrong. To be frank, some women are as infatuated with this lie as the men are, to which they respond with a female version of the same lie to convince the man. They feed off each others egos until something breaks the immersion and it all falls apart.

All of redpills self help is peppered with this idea. At first it truly is good advice: challenge yourself, work toward goals, be willing to test yourself against others, don't be afraid of risk, be confident. The problem is when it comes packaged not only with the promise of becoming "Chad", but the cynical worldview that exhists only to reaffirm itself and compound the idea that you are "Chad". By assumption, "Chad" knows everything. Even when he loses "Chad" is the winner in his own eyes. "Chad" is never at fault so he never needs to apologize.

I've written a lot already so I'm not even going to get into the woman hating shit but I'm sure you know it's there. I hope what I said makes sense, it's pretty late rn. Take their advice with a full shaker of salt and don't be afraid to admit you're wrong.

hufflepoofs · 2018-03-18T12:14:25+00:00

Nope. I think the only form of Chad that exists is if you're rich, and the people going after them just wanna hang out with someone who gives them access to doing cool stuff, not any kind of love or sexual attraction or anything like people would expect of a "Chad". People who lots of people are attracted to sexually and romantically are usually just people who are genuinely nice and charismatic and just overall pleasant people to be around, but to a tee because obviously no one is ever 100% like that all of the time. I think that's one of the things "red pill" ignores a lot, is that all humans are imperfect, but if you're just a genuinely nice person people are more willing to overlook your flaws. Which is why the flaw of "being an asshole" isn't something most people are willing to just overlook.

Ineedtogetalife4real · 2018-03-19T02:34:16+00:00

There is definitely such a thing as a "ladies man", meaning a guy who attracts women rather easily. Just like you have people with naturally high intelligence and memory retention, that end up acing every class in school. Just because someone doesn't have to try hard to ace classes, doesn't mean they'll do well in the workforce. There is a lot of effort and discipline required to ensure a persons long term success.

WolfgangCaleb · 2018-04-02T05:00:11+00:00

Oh, he exists. It's more of a stereotype of the college jock that fucks all the hot girls in High school.

MikeKolas · 2018-03-23T14:59:00+00:00

I once catfished on few dating sites. I put pic of a good looking guy - a Chad. Several women initiated the chat. Almost every woman that I messaged, responded back. I was very bold and sorta lewd/crude in my responses to them...complimenting their appearance such as how they wud look better with an O-face (and that I can help)....To my surprise and dismay, many girls enjoyed such chat and wnated to meet me. I made several difficult conditions for meeting - like ...insisting that they shud be prepared for sex on first date; that I like to treat the girl as a slut in bed; that I maintain a list of FWB of 2-3 girls at any time. I would say many girls liked it... or thought they cud reform me and make me a boyfriend material.

So to answer your qn - yes...Chads to exist. But let me give you some perspective - Chads exist, as well as serial killers. Our society has all kinds of ppl. Every kind of personality that you can imagine, exists in real. That means nothing.

Five_Decades · 2018-03-19T01:04:08+00:00

Women do find a tiny minority of men extremely attractive. TRP says it is 20%, but it is really 5%.

However no, they don't get approached the way women do. Women give lots of 'come hither' looks to those guys but they don't approach the men.

If those 5% of men want sex, it is pretty easy. Just go on Tinder and you can be set up by the night.

However to be in the top 5% you usually have to be handsome, athletic and tall. Maybe only 2 out of 3, but usually all 3.

TheNightWind777 · 2018-03-18T10:23:46+00:00

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Title	Does "Chad" exist?
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Date	March 18, 2018 4:54 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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