Given up

zgreg1 · 2022-04-20T07:23:30+00:00

24 is not too late to get started with your life. No age is too late. Only after death is too late. Also, everyone is relationship material with someone, probably someone at a similar stage. College is unnecessary and overrated. But you do need a job as a way to feel productive and a way to pay for dates. Are your parents supporting you?

mammajess · 2022-04-20T09:03:35+00:00

Ok. This is hard, and I feel your pain. 24 is time to get serious, but really you just need to take an opportunity you wont hate too much right now, just anything to get on a track that goes in a different direction to this. This isn't too late. If you change tracks quickly you will be fine :)

You need to get your general life sorted before you try to add another person into the picture. The essential thing is to become intendent and self-supporting. This isn't because you're a man or women care about money, it's just because all humans have to feed themselves.

JLCpbfspbfspbfs · 2022-04-20T13:54:48+00:00

First of all please please please seek help if you are feeling suicidal.

It's not too late to start getting job experience. Perhaps look into an entry level union job and build from there.

That being said, You shouldn't think you need to have a solid career in order to have a relationship or to have a healthy self esteem.

If finding a stable career path is what makes you feel better about yourself, pursue it. You should focus on what makes you more happy with yourself, finding a relationship will be easier once you do!

I hope what I wrote was helpful!

Dr_Strange_Fellow · 2022-04-20T18:40:21+00:00

Therapy bro. Go to therapy. Not saying that to be crass. You need help and you have so much life left to live

NdN124 · 2022-04-20T21:31:54+00:00

It sounds like you're feeling bad about your life without trying to do something about it. When you worry in life, you should use that emotion to figure out ways to get yourself in a better position. Laying around feeling bad about the situation won't help you it will only make you more depressed. 24 is still young and you don't need any of those things you say you haven't had. How are you living without a job? If you're with your parents, it might be hard to find a date. If you're wealthy, none of that really matters anyway. I think that you should try to find part-time work or go to a community college and pick up a trade. You can meet people that way and you're dateability will increase. I can also tell you that there are a lot of men your age at community colleges right now. They typically decide to pick up a trade after they've gotten burnt out on low and minimum-wage work or have families that need more money to take care of. Another option would be to join the military. That can fix 3 out of the 4 complaints you've mentioned. You might even be able to find a good woman that has similar interests while in the military too. I think that TRPers would tell you to do some of the same thing that I mentioned but they would tell you that women will work to your detriment. I say be smart about who you date and what you'll accept within a relationship but don't be an arrogant chest-beating woman hating jerk like the TRPers say you should be.

dottywine · 2022-04-20T23:33:14+00:00

Do you have a therapist?

MaynardRosemary · 2022-04-20T23:45:59+00:00

I will tell you something, my father met my mother at 41 almost 42, never is late to relationships, im 21 i have had the same thoughts, but i realized that im not ready, and if i dont take care of my selfhygiene i ll never have something, and im working in myself very hard.

R_xal · 2022-04-21T05:20:45+00:00

Software engineering courses, fastest way

PhilosopherHistorian · 2022-04-23T18:59:27+00:00

I’d highly suggest looking for a job you might enjoy if you haven’t already.

Others already said this here but I can’t stress enough how much better community college and trade school is. They’re less expensive than your average university and tend to focus on more practical skills. Even if you’re a fanatic of the academics, you can spend some time in community college and transfer to a uni eventually. I only ever went to community college (most of my classes were online thanks to the pandemic anyway, I went from summer 2019 til winter 2021) and I now am doing uni online so I can empathize with that feeling of being left out from activities at unis. However, beyond those 4 or so years of fun, people face debt and difficulty finding a career that suits what they majored in and wind up either having to go back for a more ‘useful’ major or go to trade school anyway.

I guarantee you, nobody has it all figured out by 24, even if it seems like they do.

hellsingsoutoftune · 2022-04-20T13:04:14+00:00

The point of life is not to enjoy it.

It is to see what we are capable of creating within this lifetime.

It would be a shame to not know what your mind and body is capable of just because you didn't have enough discipline to do what is necessary.

RedPillDetox · 2022-04-20T09:29:24+00:00

People believe the weirdest shit, specially the people with the lesser arguments.

Dating isn't THAT hard, from a probabilistic point of view you're not THAT unattractive nor autistic and you should have had at least some female companionship if you actually had put in the proportional effort in chasing women you think your case would deserve. It's almost impossible to go chase hundreds of women with a realistic mindset and not get at least 1 girl interested.

You don't have no friends - Get yourself in some sort of extracurricular activity and try to meet some new people

Go to college, even if it is community college and STFU. You or your parents got money to pay for that. And you probably have a curriculum good enough to get on a major. There are plenty of courses you can follow.

You're trying to argue for the fact that you'd be on the lowest possible bottom 1% tier of Unattractiveness x Autistic social skills x Low Intelligence X Bottom poverty line to the point you're too fugly, stupid or poor to do anything with your life. From a probabilistic point of view, that would be 0,0000000000000001% of the world population. And, it seems, most of those people converge on this forum. AS IF... because it's all bullshit and you're all deluded. Quit feeling sorry for yourself and trying to make other people sorry for you. Not saying you're good looking or intelligent, but your case is definitly not as hard as you're saying nor as hopeless.

meteorness123 · 2022-04-22T06:07:32+00:00

People change thwir life at far later age, relax

Title	Given up
Author	Pomeranian111
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Date	April 20, 2022 5:51 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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