I'm never going to be in a relationship, which is okay I guess, what ways are there to enjoy life regardless?

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Naus1987 · 2022-02-27T14:22:12+00:00

Maybe unrelated. But this predispositions are the best for having a good life. Don't get me wrong. Sure, you could say you're not dealt the best cards but on a flipside. What do you got to lose? You can still go to the gym, get outside and do stuff you wanna do. Those limitations are in your head. Sure all the stuff you mentioned matters. But like me you can get dealt super good cards and still be a sucker in many aspects due to your limiting beliefs. You got nothing to lose and everything to gain. We have saying in the Country my parents are from. "The Handsome doesn't get laid, the persistent one does" Good luck my bro. Take the disadvantages and own them. Strength can't be faked.

hippy_speed_ball · 2022-02-27T15:43:00+00:00

You're asking the wrong questions.

Instead you should be asking how can I live a fulfilling life whether or not you find a someone to be in a relationship with.

You can't kill the desire, and you shouldn't want to. You don't know you'll never be in a relationship. You might end up in one, you might not. You have way too much emotional stake in it.

A fulfilling life starts with finding passions and setting goals for yourself and starting working towards those goals.

It's also very helpful to work on being compassionate to yourself. How do you treat yourself? You can learn to treat yourself better. To be a kind friend to yourself instead of someone who beats themself up. Try to view yourself as a friend who has made honest mistakes, not as a "lost cause". No one is a lost cause. Everyone has value. If you feel like you're missing out on a great relationship in your life, the first place you should look is the relationship you have with yourself.

HumanNumber348 · 2022-02-27T17:54:39+00:00

What do you seek in a relationship that is not possible as single? Sure, a relationship is nice, but it's just a companion in the routines you already have. A partner is a person you share life with, it does not make a life.

> prefer the loner lifestyle over having to constantly socialize with others.

It sounds like you aren't really missing out. What is a partner besides a person to socialize with constantly?

Huge-Theme6774 · 2022-02-27T14:48:12+00:00

As a woman, it does not matter how "non subjectively ugly" a person is, as long as he has takes his time to heal his insecurities through therapy, has clear personal values, and consistently work towards his goals in life

ispariz · 2022-02-27T22:47:12+00:00

You’re so young. Drop the redpill and start working on yourself, inside and out. Get a therapist, work on your self-loathing. Try to be as healthy as possible. Once you stop hating yourself so fucking much, socializing will become easier. Get into your hobbies, get new hobbies. Find reasons to leave the house and talk to other people. Focus on making FRIENDS. Male or female, doesn’t matter. Have boundaries and self-respect (therapy comes into play here) and you will end up with people who like YOU and not what you do for them. As for “ugly”, that’s not an excuse. Men with severe disabilities that affect their appearance (and more) can and do find partners. Look up the Youtube channel Squirmy and Grubbs. Shane, the man in the couple, is not rich. He just has a good personality and doesn’t wallow in self-loathing. Life is too short to be limited by self-hatred. Seriously, find a therapist you like, be willing to challenge your assumptions and change your mind about things, and get out there. Worst case scenario you’re single and much more content. Best case scenario you’re in a loving happy relationship and like yourself and your life. Compared with your current course of action. Best case scenario is maybe eventually learning to hate yourself less the hard way. Worst case is continuing to spiral.

kassrot · 2022-02-28T02:47:45+00:00

Read the book 3% Man Watch Corey Wayne videos.

Not one more rp video

Just what you want to be You will be in the end

Deidara-katsu · 2022-02-28T03:06:53+00:00

This is black pill territory, you would be better off in rp

HGW86 · 2022-02-28T06:22:28+00:00

I challenge you to say something genuinely nice and positive about yourself! Even if it's something small or trivial, just say something nice about yourself.

Because you describe yourself in your post as ugly, boring, insecure, shy, awkward. These are such mean things to say about yourself and you should be much kinder!

So I have to agree with the suggestion that what you should do is focus on self-love and building your self-esteem. Learn to be kind, compassionate and forgiving of yourself. Because I don't think you'll be able to find any joy in life, regardless of if your in a relationship or not, if you're constantly putting yourself down.

fijupanda · 2022-02-27T14:37:12+00:00

maybe try chanelling that desire into a hobby or something that brings you relief. I like to interpret people's songs and translate to kind of appease myself.

Naus1987 · 2022-02-27T16:10:09+00:00

Work for money, money for therapy. Anyone who says therapy is bad has never had good therapy. Absolutely life changing.

Additionally, you can devote your life to stoicism instead of red pill. Or find a charity cause.

The real problem is your life doesn’t have meaning. You think meaning is defined by relationships, but it doesn’t have to be.

Find your purpose. The world is your oyster.

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Red_Trapezoid · 2022-02-27T22:34:03+00:00

I'm 31m and here's what I do. I focus on myself 100%. No relationship or kids means more money and time for me. I can do pretty much anything I want in my free time as an adult. Take the best care of YOU possible.

So many people are falling apart at the seams because of the relationship they "had to" have, the particular flashy car they "needed", the children they were "supposed to" have and so on and so forth. People who refused to see the writing on the wall and thought they would be an exception to the realities of this late Capitalist system. I don't know all of your circumstances but you can avoid a lot of financial strain by avoiding relationships.

People need people and you should try to at least have some decent friends. Ones who respect you and you respect. Don't hang out with losers or slimy scumbags. Avoid groups with a crab bucket mentality.

If you are like me, and are mostly isolated 100% of the time. Podcasts and interesting youtube videos to listen to make me less lonely. I also get to learn something about politics or social problems. I used to love playing roms and romhacks of old games but I do that less now. Appreciate what you've got. Live in the moment and take every day at a time. I am almost completely alone, I have to work a lot and it takes all my energy, I'm kind of traumatized from a lot of past experience. I have a lot of issues. But the truth is that despite all that I'm mostly happy and content. Nobody gets to have everything.

moppykate · 2022-02-27T22:34:55+00:00

Have you considered or attempted relationships with women who are ugly, like really bad, and also are boring, insecure, shy, awkward, and negative?

Available-Ad-9338 · 2022-02-28T00:50:31+00:00

Steve Buscemi is ugly as fuck yet still attracts women. I see objectively ugly men with girlfriends/wives all the time.

Pomeranian111 · 2022-02-28T03:25:58+00:00

could start with your mindset.........

TheSwagonborn · 2022-02-28T03:29:29+00:00

You are nor a psychic my friend, so you can't really use words like 'never'

To your title-question, i suggest exploration as the first step

Try things

Things that can be tried from your room are:

Math(/physics and the rest of fhe STEM)

Drawing

Singing

Writing

Reading

And ofc you can always take a walk, work out or talk to loved ones (friends included)

Finding something you love is huge for self-perception and i wish you the best

H8beingmale · 2022-03-10T04:35:18+00:00

never had any women express interest in you your whole life?

hellsingsoutoftune · 2022-03-20T12:40:53+00:00

I am somewhat like you, one year younger though (22 years old).

I work all day, this is how I find peace in life. I have a dream which I will try to accomplish within my lifetime, this gives me purpose and meaning in life.

I uninstalled social media, focused on family and stopped talking to people who I judged were not conducive to my dreams.

Endurance training can lower testosterone and consequently libido.

I meditate and try to communicate with my subconscious before I go to sleep.

Hope this helps and feel free to ask more questions!

Title	I'm never going to be in a relationship, which is okay I guess, what ways are there to enjoy life regardless?
Author	Pomeranian111
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Date	February 27, 2022 2:15 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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