How to deal with insecurity

eurmahm · 2023-10-07T18:55:26+00:00

Have other things going on in your life. If you are happy and busy and have other things you enjoy, you won’t be so hung up on when/how/if she responds to you.

Also…

Expectations are a one way ticket to misery. No one ever reacts exactly how you imagine. The sooner you can stop having expectations for how fast she should answer and what that means about xyz, the better off you will be.

TopIncrease6441 · 2023-10-07T18:29:34+00:00

I recommend not placing too much weight on the relationship. If something happens you might take it personally. You should distract yourself with other things to pass the time. Not sure what you’re doing this Saturday but if you’ve got nothing to do try one of those organizing games on your phone. You know the ones where you sift through the big pile to match stuff together. Try that one. Or the ones on the shelf. Or download one of those mystery comfort games

bluemagex2517 · 2023-10-08T01:44:36+00:00

Just embrace the moment.

It's normal behavior to have butterflies. People in the 1700-1800s would check the mail all the damn time waiting for a letter from their new paramore. In the age of texting, we check our messages on our phone.

Over time that will fade as y'all get used to one another.

While it's happening, just let it be a reminder of how joyous life is. Smile to yourself. If you didn't give a fuck, that'd be depressing.

Still, playing it somewhat cool is a good thing. People want someone who ramps up their infatuation/love at the same rate as them. If you like her a bit, but she seems crazy into you, that can be off putting. Same is true in reverse. You don't have to be completely emotionally distant like red pillers say, but you should instead match the vibe you're getting from her and both slowly ramp it up as things progress.

There's no one way to do it, you just feel it out. That's just how healthy early relationships work.

Most_Read_1330 · 2023-10-08T06:22:10+00:00

She'll either text or she won't. It's not worth worrying about my brother. Just enjoy your life.

oldcousingreg · 2023-10-08T07:16:41+00:00

Just let the communication flow naturally. Give yourself extra time to focus on something else for a little while as a distraction and try to match her response rate. Like if she takes about ten minutes to respond, reply back in 15-20.

Direct_Yesterday_349 · 2023-10-28T11:18:06+00:00

Constant texting is a distraction and not healthy. If she texts you keep the texts brief and text her back or let her know you’re too busy and would like to meet up later. If you text her and she doesn’t have a good excuse for not getting back to you in under an hour it means she’s not that into you so let her go. If chad was on the other end texting her you know she’d respond quickly. Women constantly have phones in their hands. Unless they’re busy with work they’ll get back to you quickly if really like you. Rely on text more to handle logistics. Not as a means of having long rambling conversations.

Lanky-Loss-2287 · 2023-10-08T08:00:26+00:00

have a general 'mission' in life besides women. changed my whole life.

Direct_Yesterday_349 · 2023-10-09T12:03:41+00:00

I’ve been there. It’s very simple. If they don’t text you back in a reasonable amount of time means they’re not interested. Forget that person and block. If the person desires you they will reply fairly promptly unless fairly busy at a good job. We have our phones constantly in our hands so they’re taking their time on purpose. Focus on self improvement and stop worrying about others so much

Damoksta · 2023-10-18T07:56:49+00:00

Look up attachment theory: Adam Lane Smith has plenty of content around this on youtube.

Get yourself secured first, know your principals and values and build your life around it. Then date someone who is attracted to your principals.

Title	How to deal with insecurity
Author	sturgeo123
Upvotes	6
Comments	14
Date	October 7, 2023 4:55 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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