I would appreciate advice on confidence.

AdditionalHyena5109 · 2022-05-22T15:25:14+00:00

self esteem is basically self respect. so if you’re a guy, hit the gym, start running 5ks, pick up hobbies like playing the piano or guitar, this will all increase self esteem.

confidence is sureness. how sure are you that you will be able to complete or attempt a task. the only way to gain confidence is to build it. by trying and failing and trying and then succeeding.

there is no cheat code to this stuff though. it will take time but as long as you take one step a day you will make progress.

Naus1987 · 2022-05-22T16:29:47+00:00

A good reason to meet people through a hobby. Generally speaking, you should have a confident amount of knowledge about your chosen hobby, bad you can confidently discuss it with others.

It’s really an easy way to be confident, because you love your hobby and of course you’d know all about it!

Academic_Type624 · 2022-05-22T16:42:41+00:00

There's a spectrum of confidence going from no self esteem to raging narcissist.

Ideally you should be looking to work your way to healthy self worth. Its really important for your own well-being. It means you have the ability to say I don't deserve to be treated like shit for example. It also means you respect yourself enough to take care of yourself.

It helps to identify the things you're insecure about and work through them. This could look like challenging your beliefs about yourself to getting new hobbies.

Its important to note it comes from within yourself

vcreativ · 2022-05-22T17:14:03+00:00

Not an easy topic, especially considering that you provided little information about yourself. Confidence is quite a personal topic.

Confidence is often described as if attached to an specific ability. "I am confident because I can do abc." Personally, I question that, rather confidence is being ok with failing in general. Not in the sense that want to fail, but rather that it's fine if it happens because it's not the thing that gives you worth.

Confidence then necessitates self-worth.

Similarly, self-worth is often misunderstood (in my mind) and gets described as mannerisms a to c. "Do them, then you have high-self-worth." Same thing here, you might be able to extrapolate from certain behaviours that a person might have self-worth, but the real thing is fully internal, and therefore invisible. It might correlate with certain mannerisms, but certainly cannot be caused by them.

Self-worth, for the most part is built up by having an actualised relationship with yourself and ideally a few others (depending on circumstance that's not always possible). The depth of the relationship you have with yourself matters more than the relationship you have with others.

Though if you can at all, find some people to regularly meet and just talk (you don't have to be friends, you just need to get on).

unlivedbread · 2022-05-22T21:46:45+00:00

Confidence comes from knowing you can meet your needs.

Learn how to defend yourself, if you don't already have marketable skills get them, hopefully you already know how to make friends, learn how to find a good partner in a reasonable amount of time.

If you know you can do all these things, by virtue of who you are, you'll be very confident and not much other people do will be able to change that

HappyRainbowSparkle · 2022-05-22T22:22:21+00:00

Find a hobby you enjoy, something you can take pride in and put some effort into, model making, fitness anything. Confidence will come when you feel more pride in yourself

Title	I would appreciate advice on confidence.
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Date	May 22, 2022 2:23 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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