I've realized my views are toxic and wrong, what steps do i take to overcome them.

TashaDarke · 2021-10-11T12:14:39+00:00

Challenge the views as they come up. Keep some paper and a pen handy and write down the thought or statement as it comes to you. Then, write a challenge to it.

eg.

"Only tall men get girlfriends"

"If this were true, no medium or short men would be in relationships, yet I know <man who is short> has been with his partner for <x> years. I see the medium height man at number 35 lives with his wife and children."

Over time the challenging statements will sink in and become automatic. This is a technique of Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, to help deal with distorted thinking.

You could also make a note of positive things you did during the day that mark moving towards the life you want. They can be really small like "made small talk with the cashier at the supermarket". We like to dwell on the bad and ignore the good - this exercise makes you recognise the good

edit: fixed an unfortunate typo!

RabbitNRaccoon · 2021-10-11T10:24:42+00:00

Therapy.

I'm not being sarcastic either.

Yupperdoodledoo · 2021-10-11T17:24:19+00:00

Make sure you’re getting out in the world every day. EVERY DAY. "Out in the world" ideally means environments where you see all kinds of people, not just one narrow slice. And the most common thread of behavior among red pilled men who have these resentments is time spent in online spaces. You’re getting a totally skewed view of reality if that’s where you spend most of your time.

The other big thing is developing friendships with women so you come to see them as people, not some strange species. Ideally, you want to seek out friendships with women you aren’t attracted to so that the relationship is purely platonic.

zapadz · 2021-10-11T11:03:23+00:00

try the sedona method

peeperly · 2021-10-11T21:17:28+00:00

Realize you're above the others. You're recognizing truth and you'll be gaslighted into thinking otherwise if you keep reading redpill content. Misery loves company. True happiness and freedom is absent of other people.

fi91ggivxyijcxf · 2021-10-11T13:25:12+00:00

Just do it what you want I guess Stop worrying about this red pill things if anything bad happen you deal with it with a light heart( I am Brazilian I don't know if this expression exists) That s the best thing I can say

Yesm3can · 2021-10-11T13:38:39+00:00

By being logical of course. You said your problem is that you are physically unattractive yes?

Then grab Biology book and take the problem to the people who really did you dirty. Aka your biological parents. They were the ones decided to continue their genes. They created you. Now you run into difficulty in life...and you let them get away with it and blaming random women instead?

Come on!!!! Logic please!

Everytime you start to think badly about women, think that logically, none of these women were present and actively encouraged your biological parents during your conception. So yeah, you are barking at the wrong tree here.

MilkchocolateHero · 2021-10-12T04:37:17+00:00

Try thinking about how you would like to be treated. If you want to be treated with kindness, try to be kinder. If you want people to be patient with you, try to be more patient.

It won't be easy, but think of trying to be the friend that you have always wanted. What are the qualities, attitudes or beliefs that they possess. Try to be a little more like that.

dead_PROcrastinator · 2021-10-12T19:00:38+00:00

Well, you're visiting subs intended for women, leaving horrible comments, and then deleting them. So... maybe start there?

You need to stop. You are visiting subs that create a negative feedback loop. You are talking to men who are reinforcing your negative views - these views do not reflect the reality of our world.

You are not successful in your relationships because you seem hateful towards women and (what you consider) "attractive" men. These views bleed into your social interactions.

The vast majority of us, men and women, are average looking, average size. And we have (relatively) happy relationships and interactions. Porn, social media, and entertainment all create an unrealistic standard of beauty.

Stop visiting incel subs, and redpill/blackpill subs, and your life and relationships will improve. Start seeing women an humans to interact with and not just objects to have sex with.

And for fucks sake, stop using the terms Chad and Beta, and the like, stop thinking like this. They aren't real - they are part of the hateful rethoric that is poisoning your mind and soul.

1234567890ap · 2021-10-11T22:46:08+00:00

Your views were correct the first time around, they just make you uncomfortable because you’re not used to it. Keep it red pill my guy.

Title	I've realized my views are toxic and wrong, what steps do i take to overcome them.
Author	No_Light8809
Upvotes	21
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Date	October 11, 2021 9:25 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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