I’m not really sure if this is the right sub for this question but I need to ask it somewhere. I am currently a couple months into a relationship with someone I was friends with for a few years prior.

I watched him go through a very rough relationship and breakup three years ago and has been pretty isolated since then as far as dating goes.

Through my many conversations with him, I notice so many beliefs that align with red pill content. The story that I’ve pieced together is, already coming from a more conservative well off family, after the breakup he dove into red pill content (intentional or not).

Many of his beliefs feel so deep rooted that I’ll never be able to break them and I’m frankly very tired of trying to “prove” him wrong about women. His beliefs may be subtle, but they’re things like rhetoric surrounding men cheating (biological, he’s not right but he’s only human) vs a woman cheating (she’s a slut, etc) and that “a perfect relationship will always end up in one person cheating because perfection is boring”.

I understand he has been hurt in the past and been given reason to believe that women are unfaithful but I guess my long winded explanation leads to this question: is there any hope of these beliefs changing?

I’ve told him I don’t want him using words like slut, whore or saying things like “all women”, but I don’t think he really understands why it hurts on a deeper level to make generalizations that can never be beat. He says that it’s obviously “all women but me” but I know that’s not how it works.

I know people can’t change unless they want to, but I’m just hoping for anecdotes, helpful tips or suggestions. Thank you all