Save the text messages. After a lot of processing/deep thought/ erecting boundaries the past couple months, I wanted to see if I could spot any patterns of red flags in early text conversations from my past two relationships.

Aaaaand holy SHIT red flag central. But SOOOO subtle if you’re not highly trained to pick up on these cues! I have this community to thank for being able to spot them. I wish I had known then what I do now!

It’s also so therapeutic to look back at some of the arguments and see how well I expressed my boundaries and emotions, even before I came to this community. However, now I know that I shouldn’t have to constantly EXPLAIN or even mention them to an actual HVM.

Bless this group of wonderful ladies and cheers to brighter futures and better boundaries! 🥰

(Also not going to lie, I realized how adorable AF I am at flirting and it made me feel quite good about myself. I didn’t deserve that shit treatment, even if I didn’t pick up on their red flags! 🙃)