Breakup Advice

painmakesyoustronger · 2020-07-22T14:41:06+00:00

Can you explain why you have to keep living with him? Can you not afford to break the lease?

It would be worth the money in the end. And a good lesson not to move in with boyfriends.

Phoenix__Rising2018 · 2020-07-22T14:38:52+00:00

try to remember the things you used to do when you felt good about yourself and then start doing them again. Maybe that's working out, spending time with friends....whatever.

FurryBellyButt0n · 2020-07-22T18:42:36+00:00

Treat him as a roommate, nothing more. Be cordial and civil, but know it's not your responsibility, role, or a priority for you to choose his comfort over your own or make concessions for a person who has made it clear that they are not as invested.

Try to aggressively save as much money as you can and try to GTFO of your current living situation. Obviously, prioritize your mental health and try to get some enjoyed from your current circumstances too, but aggressively saving by meal prepping, organizing and selling things, and doing some of the preemptive transitional things will help you stay busy, not focus on him, and he will see you take steps as an empowered confident Queen moving on.

Schedule things to do during the weekday, off times, and weekend so you minimize interactions with him or intentionally schedule time to be away so when in moments of feeling alone, you do not go back to him or engage with him over comfort, convenience, and companionship for the moment. Even planning a 15 min walk in the morning and evening when you two are both off would be helpful to get some distance and get somethings done in a productive manner, but also make it clear that a boundary has been set. Schedule appointments and other distractions to focus on yourself and leveling up. Now is the time to get your hair trimmed, eye appointment, routine vaccinations or preventative health visits, look into apartments, budget money, find a side hustle, etc....

Best of luck Queen! Do whatever you need to do to NEVER lost sight of loving you.

letsdoityesterday · 2020-07-22T15:00:03+00:00

Work on yourself, set life goals, focus on your improvement, exercise.

Part of knowing your worth, is knowing that you can support yourself and be happy by yourself. Happiness is within.

AfraidofFollowers · 2020-07-22T15:55:31+00:00

Get financially stable in your own place as soon as possible. Run. I know too many stories where this will end up being a fwb and a pregnancy but no relationship.

ChristianGirl93 · 2020-07-22T17:05:29+00:00

Do what I did- re-write the story: say I broke up with you because... I broke up with you because you never did.... I chose to give up on you because you never put in the effort and I deserve more. You just dumped me because you gave up on yourself meanwhile that means I dumped you far ahead of your time bro.

willowgrowingroots · 2020-07-22T18:33:55+00:00

Do things you did before you met him. Stuff you’ve never shared or even told him about, so it’s all yours. Even small stuff like watching a movie you liked high school. It sets the mind into independence mode.

Title	Breakup Advice
Author	supercreeeps
Upvotes	13
Comments	13
Date	July 22, 2020 1:07 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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