Desi pickmes are something else

UpbeatIncubator · 2020-05-20T11:14:23+00:00

When it comes to stuff life this, have a real think about who the intended viewer is. This isn't a thought, this is a public broadcast. On the surface it seems like it's meant to be directed at other women but it is 100000% meant to be seen by men and in the process appeasing them. For the pickmeisha, the whole life experience is seen through the narrow lens of male approval. It is so utterly fucked.

EveningFires · 2020-05-20T11:30:21+00:00

Am Desi.

I’m tempted to save this post so that I remember to never do this ever. Sometimes, the broader cultural misogyny is so engrained...it’s obscene. If I start talking about it, I’ll be here for a long time.

LadyGrimes · 2020-05-20T11:24:21+00:00

Do we dare tell her the truth about men's "respect" for her?

husheveryone · 2020-05-20T11:19:55+00:00

Desi women are encouraged to have strong careers but still do absolutely everything at home, and wait hand and foot on their husband. I see this 24/7/365 in typical marriages between two young Desi US professionals. He lives like a king at home, even if she is a cardiologist making bank relative to him.

These posts reflect the overall unspoken mindset that gets women into these lopsided but culturally-promoted unions: the marital property is actually his, and they feel like feminism does not speak for their pickme family culture, which is more like total redpill GOP women.

godisalcoholic · 2020-05-20T13:35:21+00:00

I'm sooo tired of this. literally all of my friends share these "quotes" in their insta stories.

EarthFathers · 2020-05-20T19:08:36+00:00

Desi women end up with this mindset because their mothers teach them this from a young age. When I was a teen my mum would constantly be on my case about cooking and doing chores around the house. She asked me ‘how will you feed your husband and children if you can’t cook?’

I responded with ‘Why do I need to feed my husband? I didn’t carry him in my womb that I am obligated to provide for him.’

Seriously ridiculous how desi mothers treat men like they are children whose arses constantly need to be wiped.

Even worse when you go through the arranged marriage route. In arranged marriages the majority of men are looking for obedient wives who will allow their selves to be bullied by their mother in laws.

RadarFemef · 2020-05-20T20:19:49+00:00

Oh sweetie... he's using your BODY as his playground and baby machine. He uses your time and mental load to govern his house and be his maid, cook, personal assistant, social secretary, nurse, nanny, and laundry service. Can you say "internalized misogyny" or maybe just "blind to reality"???

blackredrosepetals · 2020-05-20T17:12:07+00:00

Sreshme · 2020-05-20T23:11:09+00:00

I say these are posts made by men mocking women in general. But women share them as well! I am desi as well 😊

iamjustventing · 2020-05-20T11:25:41+00:00

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DaneShook · 2020-05-21T12:55:27+00:00

The lowercased “I” says a lot.

Title	Desi pickmes are something else
Author	appleadam123
Upvotes	187
Comments	40
Date	May 20, 2020 11:08 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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