I noticed in the past, if I didn't feel like having sex, I agreed to have a so called "quickie", which basically is a type of sex that completely ignores a woman's pleasure. She becomes a living fleshlight, or pocket masturbator if you will. We were lied to, by media and men as well, that quickies are "passionate", "fresh", something "new", you'll spice things up, it'll make him happy, blah-blah. Now, when I think about it, the whole narrative is so terribly flawed.

Let's talk about what a quickie basically is. Your man is horny, you aren't. Because if you were you'd like to have your orgasm too. Yeah, there are women who can orgasm like that, but it's rare. Women don't enjoy dry humping without a foreplay. It can be painful too (but we have lubricants, so what's the problem, right?/s)

We are advised to have quick sex, which means: a man wants sex, you don't. He's aroused, you aren't. He'll orgasm, you probably won't. They know they used your body, but chose to ignore the fact. You know they used your body, but you chose to ignore the fact.

Why? In my pickmeisha days, it was because, like I said, I didn't really feel like having sex. But. I wanted to make him happy. I thought his pleasure satisfies me. He was nice to me afterwards.

Wrong. I just wanted to get over it with.

So now, when you feel tired, or you don't feel like having a solid foreplay, don't have sex. Get back to it, when you feel like having proper sex with a foreplay. Make sure you'll get your orgasm. Take your time.

Basically, what I'm saying is, if you want a quickie, it means you aren't mentally and physically ready to have sex at that moment. Listen to your body and mind. Don't ignore it.