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Don’t make it about what they didn’t do.

TheNightWitch

September 25, 2021

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Title	Don’t make it about what they didn’t do.
Author	TheNightWitch
Upvotes	58
Comments	8
Date	September 25, 2021 9:54 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/pvgf4i/dont_make_it_about_what_they_didnt_do/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/dont-make-it-about-what-they-didnt-do.1074284 https://theredarchive.com/post/1074284

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[–]pickmieshaexorcistFDS Disciple 61 points62 points63 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

[–]MajesticSkyPachydermFDS Newbie 8 points9 points10 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

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I used to think that we had to let a guy know what he did. Like, “Hey, you didn’t call me.” But men know what they did. They know that they were trying to test you to see how you’d react to their bad behavior. It doesn’t mean he’s a bad guy for testing you. But it means that you need to react appropriately. However you react to this is the standard that he’s gonna believe that you hold. Don’t make it about what he didn’t do. Make it about what you value.

“I noticed I haven’t heard from you and I really value consistent communication with someone I’m regularly dating. We’ve only been on one date and it seems that we’re not on the same page about that. And hearing from someone every five days is just not something I would choose for myself. I’m not used to that level of communication or inconsistency. Best of luck!”

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She is saying that women need to explain to men why they’re not happy with their behavior, in what sounds to me an effort to get them to change to get up to the woman’s standard

Yes to the standards. No to the explaining. Just block and delete.

Also, he’s not a bad guy for testing you? How so?

[–]DivineGoddess1111111FDS Newbie 48 points49 points50 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

[–]camille_sanFDS Newbie 9 points10 points11 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

[–]yoursultanaRuthless Strategist 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link