So, I'm trying to get over my NVM ex with whom I was for almost 7 years (my first and only relationship so far). I've already contacted a new therapist, and I'll be starting with her in October (she has no slots open right now). She is a feminist psychologist who is especialized in toxic relationships and abuse (I don't know if that fits my relationship, but still).

I've read the FDS guide, and multiple dating and relationship books. Still, I blame myself for everything: for not leaving sooner, for letting him break up with me, for spending so much energy, money and time on him, for loving myself so little, for not being good enough, for realizing how badly he treated me the last months of the relationship but being weak enough to still want him back.

How do I stop being in love with him? How did you ladies manage getting over someone who broke your heart?