“I want to be alone”

OnlyWantLove · 2019-10-26T15:21:12+00:00

If he's very introverted and/or depressed, it could be that he just needs to isolate himself. Talking online is less stressful than talking in person, so if you're really wanting to give him the benefit of the doubt; give him a couple of days with no talks, just texts and see if it helps.

If not, then dump him before he dumps you.

Wonderrednow · 2019-10-26T14:35:23+00:00

If he's behaving like this to everyone it may be mental health issues. Is he acting normal on social media or to his friends?

lilsaihah · 2019-10-27T01:36:43+00:00

I've read about this a bit, personality wise; it's not fair to assume he's cheating or planning to leave.

Introverts can and will clam up for possibly weeks at a time. They'll do this sometimes just periodically and they'll also do it responding to stress. Specifically, look into INTP (MBTA) or W5 (enneagram) and see if it matches up with him.

If he's sleeping more often it's very possible he's stressed out about something, or having a depressive episode.

I'd say to let him have his time, let him know that he needs to re-engage (and he's free to do it at his own time), and wait for him. However long he goes for is probably going to be how long this period typically lasts for him (though if he's stressed halfway through it it'll take longer, that's why you need to stay hands off).

If this kind of absenteeism isn't something you can work around, you need to break up; you've got a fundamental personality mismatch and you aren't compatible for one another.

RE other people saying it's insecurity on your part, it's *good* that you are, this behaviour can be an indicator of depression. Maybe not swallow the 'he's cheating!' pill without more information though.

ino_y · 2019-10-26T15:17:20+00:00

hhnnng asking the hive to mindread your bf and then give you advice is my pet peeve.

How long have you been together, have you made any changes lately (moving in together is a big one, so is job loss, death in family etc) and has he ever acted like this before.

Where do you live and what's the weather like, has the sun started going down earlier, has he been indoors more. How's his affect, demeanour etc, has he stopped showering.

What's his diet and exercise like, is he stressed about anything coming up - exams, family get togethers, the holidays, money.

I'm not going to "make shit up" and then recommend breaking up if it's something like seasonal depression.

rftw2013 · 2019-10-26T14:32:31+00:00

So leave him alone. Don't contact him. Go do your own thing. Go date other men.

I guarantee: He'll wonder what is up.

Earth-Angel11 · 2019-10-26T14:39:01+00:00

It's the beginning of the end - he's probably entertaining the idea of seeing other girls behind your back.

prettyexcitingnews · 2019-10-26T14:32:28+00:00

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normabelka2 · 2019-10-26T21:37:52+00:00

sounds like a lame excuse

Title	“I want to be alone”
Author	kittymoneygang
Upvotes	0
Comments	17
Date	October 26, 2019 2:30 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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