Dear Ladies, I’m new in this community but a long time lurker. My cousin told me a month ago to join this FDS as she said it’s a good place for women to level up. As the title says, I just broke up with my now ex bf (34yo) today. I didn’t know that he has a submissive for over 1.5 years. A bit of background, we were together for 7 months. We never fight and I trust him. I also didn’t know that he’s a hardcore BDSM practitioner for years. He never told me about this stuff and we haven’t had sex during the course of our relationship because I’m not ready even though he asked several times (I’m still virgin, 21yo). I ghosted him for weeks and after thinking, asking advice from my close friends and also reading FDS handbook, I dumped him. I know I did the right thing but I couldn’t lie that it hurts me a lot. I tried not to cry and told myself that I’d be fine but it’s just so painful. I cared about him but I can’t tolerate that he wasn’t being honest to me. Also the fact that he beats women just conflicts with my value. The take home message from this post is do not listen to your heart and use your logic. As hard as it is, at the end of the day your heart will only bring no good, especially when you know that that person is wrong for you. I hope you all have a good day🌸