I'm in such an emotional beartrap, it's truly not funny.

I (26f) met a younger guy (21m) about three years ago. He would subtly flirt with me, and I even caught him spying on me a few times. I tried to be friendly, but in front of other people he would actually be very rude to me.

I cut my losses, and I unfriended him. I ended up moving across the country, but he has a few contacts in the new city Im in. (It's truly a small world) They have come to me to tell me that he wants to know more about me, but he's also told them very nasty (and innaccurate) things about me.

He's had them ask me if I could ever love somebody like him, etc. I've told them to just have him message me if he's interested. I've seen them send him messages, but he never replied to me or them (I ended up blocking him).

These mutual friends are still relaying information between us, but he won't reach out.

I'm sick of it. He won't let me be.

He refuses to do basic things to get in touch, but also WILL. NOT. leave me completely alone.

This is aside from the fact that he was downright cruel to me years ago.

I need to mentally and psychologically detach, but it's so difficult.