This is your reminder that whatever experience, item, or life change that you were told you needed a man for, that a man wouldn’t like, or you should wait on a man for- don’t listen to those voices- do it, and do it this year!

Some of these may be deeply internalized and you aren’t actively thinking of them, but they’re affecting how you live and the choices you make. Reevaluate your actions and your intentions. Decenter male approval from your lifestyle. Whenever your instinct is saying no to something harmless or something that could improve your life- ask yourself why can’t I say yes.

Do what makes you happy, for you.

I had the best year in 2021, mentally and spiritually, by no longer wondering when I would get in a relationship, if my future involved marriage, how I could rearrange my life for a serious relationship, or what men thought of me. Instead I lived and planned my future assuming it will just be me, and all about me. I stopped caring about the male gaze or opinion. It’s freeing and truly strengthened my self-security. 10/10 recommend.