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[+]PiscesAlert3 points [recovered] (3 children) | Copy Link
I'd need more information and to observe more behavior.
Disney and video games are such a common thing now that it may or may not mean anything.
Likewise, having been to therapy and knowing those terms can be a positive sign but speaking from experience, it's easy to talk a good game. I have fallen for that trap more times than I'd like to admit.
If anything it makes them more likely to blame you for any issues in a relationship because they think, "l I'm so emotionally intelligent and have done the work so it's obviously it cannot be me who is the problem"
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[+]PiscesAlert1 points [recovered] (4 children) | Copy Link
It says you have PTSD. What you're describing is called hypervigilance.
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[+]PiscesAlert1 points [recovered] (2 children) | Copy Link
Therapy. Uncovering then undoing all the negative self beliefs you have. Understanding you have personal power and agency.
So what normally happens when you have high self esteem is that when a man either hurts you in anyway or continues to disrespect you (either through seemingly harmless things like always showing up late or through actual rudeness) you leave. You tell them, "sorry that doesn't work for me" then go on to the next one until you find the right one who can work with you and has the character and values that match yours. When you have low self esteem you tolerate it, try to change the behavior and work on it because you
Think you deserve that
Are afraid you can't find another man
Think you can't "do better"
Believe his behavior is a reflection of you, so if you were better he'd be better
Have some subconscious Beauty and The Beast mythology influencing your thinking
Afraid of being alone
What makes video games a red flag is that it's an escapist coping mechanism. If you're anxious or depressed and trying to avoid dealing with those feelings video games are super effective ways of distracting yourself. That's what makes it an addiction. But ANYTHING can be an addiction. Sports, working out, shit youtube videos, pills, TV, porn - anything.
So you have to ask yourself how and why he plays video games. Just doing it as a hobby is fine. Using it as a maladaptive coping mechanism is what makes it bad.
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