I found this sub through someone calling it out for being hateful on reddit. At first glance, I believed it. I spent 2 minutes scrolling through posts and decided FDS was filled with bitterness and hate. Note that at the time, I was in a situationship with a man who I was deeply infatuated with, to the point that I couldn’t imagine my life without him. I chose to ignore the fact that he wouldn’t call me his girlfriend, that I had developed severe anxiety for seemingly no reason, that I felt hollow after every single time we had sex. He told me he “cared” about me and that was enough.

A few weeks later, after yet another round of disrespect from this man who would bombard me with messages/attention then ghost me for days, flake at the last minute, etc. something in my mind brought me back to FDS. Only this time, I read through posts properly. I spent hours. I read the handbook in full. And something just CLICKED.

The more posts I read on this sub the more validated I felt. It was like every single belief that I had shamefully repressed (thanks society and media!) were all confirmed. I felt really angry and sad for a while, because I realised I had spent the past 1.5 years being emotionally abused by someone who couldn’t care less about me. Fast forward two months later and this person is blocked and out of my life for good. I have never felt more at peace or more full of self love. If you are currently in a relationship, a situationship, are seeing someone and have a gut feeling that something isn’t right - please just spend some time reading through this sub.