one important yet often understated piece of advice for women who want to start dating HVM

circescircus · 2020-04-17T07:51:25+00:00

I absolutely agree. It's really hard to find HV women friends, sadly.

I know a few but they tend to be busy lone wolves (or highly career-oriented... or maybe they just don't like as much as I like them... yikes..).

I had a few women friends whom I would call HV but they were ALL obsessed with finding/holding down a man, and were huge Pickmes. I couldn't stand spending too much time with them because they'd obsess about the latest shitty thing their partners did.

Any tips on meeting awesome women friends in Covid-era social distancing :)?

sophrosyne2189 · 2020-04-17T12:03:02+00:00

A married female friend I looked up to told me straight out that the guy I was sobbing over was not into me and did not feel the same as I felt about him. That woke me up good.

circescircus · 2020-04-17T09:24:42+00:00

Yes, I believe it's important to have good female friends. I think that men can do okay in life, without having real friends, because the world is designed for them, it's easy for any half decent man to find a supportive woman, who will gladly provide more emotional labor than he gives. Society is not at their throat, constantly trying to gaslight and censor them, they don't live under the "female gaze", life is just smoother for them. Women NEED female friendships to survive and to thrive. We need the companionship and support system of female friendship. Not having it means that the chance of surviving and thriving are severely diminished.

However, toxic female friendships are the opposite. Pickme friends have a crabs in a bucket mentality, it will rub off on you. It's better to not have female friends than to have bad female friends, but it's important to try to find good female friends. It took me almost 3 years to build a circle of strong, uplifting female friends after moving thousands of miles away from home. I'm also fortunate enough to have several female cousins I grew up with, who have always been my best friends. I don't see eye to eye with 2 of my cousins, but the rest are fantastic. I know I am very lucky, but I also know it's possible to have cousin-like type of bonds with women who are not related. I love my friends the same as family.

Salt_Satisfaction · 2020-04-17T19:10:24+00:00

I knew my best friend was a real friend when I told her I was considering giving up university and finding a job. She said I was crazy and that I was too intelligent to give up on higher education like that. Went on a rant on the million reasons why I shouldn't quit.

Not all women can be your ally like that, usually people would have said "oh ok, if that's what you want". People that push you to higher ambitions and don't take any bullshit are the best.

lanaisg0d · 2020-04-17T14:47:22+00:00

I am that friend for my pick me friend who is with a married man 20 years older than us who treats her like sh*t and demands her to go see him to have sex but won’t even pay for the Uber lol

Title	one important yet often understated piece of advice for women who want to start dating HVM
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Date	April 17, 2020 5:34 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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