A lot of women are tricked into settling for a guy because there's 'worse men out there'.

Just because some men are murderers or rapists or hit their partner does not mean you should settle for some brain- dead guy you aren't attracted to who's terrible in bed, bores you to death and isn't that generous or thoughtful.

Would you pick up a piece of moldy cake just because there was an even moldier piece next to it?

NO. You'd just pass on that store and walk around until you find one with better hygiene. Or better yet, go make one at home that can be trusted.

But if you decided to go for the first option out of hunger, you would end up with an upset stomach later regretting it.

Now of course women aren't clairvoyants and everyone can have a slip up when vulnerable and overlook glaring red flags that they wouldn't at full capacity....but when you become aware of them you must rip that plaster off sooner, rather than later. Because it is likely he preyed on your vulnerabilities deliberately and has even more bullshit up his sleeve... he knew he would have no chance if you were at full capacity thinking clearly.

You must realise you made an error of judgement because you are human and were fresh out a breakup, stressed, lonely, overwhelmed, sexually frustrated or had family stuff going on.

Its better to dip out 6 months in at the sign of trouble .....than be stuck miserable for 6 years with 2 kids later wishing you did it sooner. Wishing you focused on yourself.

Hesitation, is a window of golden opportunity to a predator. And before you know it 8 months of hesitating and anxiously analysing your relationship has gone by for you to just feel even lousier, then 12 months, then two years, then four, then six, then ten. Everytime you try to leave he reminds you of some kind thing he did 11 centuries ago and you cave in.

Now you are depressed seeking a divorce with 3 kids and fucked off you didn't get rid of this parasite sooner.

You see? That's how they do it. And that's how I've avoided it by treating my time like gold dust that they won't get access to for long unless they're treating me with respect.

They keep buying more and more of your time to waste if you don't rip the plaster off.

Your power is in taking your TIME, ENERGY AND ATTENTION....AWAY.

The more you practice, the easier it gets. Because you will have learned to stand on your own two feet, enjoy your solitude and set boundaries with people who violate your energy.

This is how abusive men keep women trapped, they keep getting more and more chances which is just more ammo for them to use against you. They can use more and more memories to manipulate you into staying- 'wow after 6 years...remember when!'. They'll say no one else will want you blah blah you don't know what you're missing...why leave when you've given them 6 years? Do you really want to do this :(

....and the longer you've been together with an abusive man and the more time & feelings & money he's invested, the angrier he is going to get when his possession tries to leave. The closer you are getting to becoming a victim of physical violence or being killed.

Being decisive is extremely beneficial to you, the prey.

As a female whether you like it or not you are seen as prey to low value men, the hunter.

Act sooner, rather than later (on your instinct- ignore his monologues and pick me interference) and that predator can't take a big chunk out of your neck, maybe he'll scratch you at most.

This is why men get seething mad when they can't keep hold of their prey long and she flies away.

But if a female bird isn't satisfied with a male candidate or whatever twigs he's bringing to her nest, that's what she'll do...piss off and fly away. She'll go mate with someone better. She's not stupid. She's not hanging around. She's not making a pro's and con's list or reading 5 ways to regain his interest by dressing like a teenage girl! Or articles on 5 reasons you should open up the nest.

You too, should get like a bird...piss off and fly away. Make it simple. Leave him embaressed clutching the twigs in his mouth.

This is how they keep the bar low and keep you in scarcity mode- buy now or miss out! Low value men frequently use pushy sales tactics to gaslight you into putting up with them and committing to being their bangmaid slave. This will benefit them far more than it will you.

From watching most pick me women around me.....

Marriage to the average scrote is slavery, ill mental health and endless cheating.

I'll say it again for the pick mes at the back:

MARRIAGE TO THE AVERAGE SCROTE IS SLAVERY, ILL MENTAL HEALTH AND ENDLESS CHEATING.

It is not like the movies. You will not enjoy settling and this isn't off my own biased opinions- I've had countless conversations with 40+ pickmeishas who regret settling or taking sympathy on some scrote and his sob story. They wish they could go back and do it differently.

Even the worst of worst lifelong pickmeisha agreed with FDS principles. They all echoed 'focus on your career first', 'look out for yourself they are full of shit', or 'go for the money cos the broke ones treat you like a mule and are full of shit anyway'.

And that's not me criticising marriage, but the lousy deal most men are selling you longterm.

And if someone has to aggressively, constantly convince you to trust them or go further with them when you don't feel 100% about it.....its likely they are a scrote who knows they are batting out of their comfort zone. They know you aren't convinced.

This is how you end up settling for some loser and ending up regretting it.

The reality of men is heavily over-romanticised in the movies.

Living with them day in and day out is not like the movies. A lot of the romance and thrills and romantic dates and gifts are short lived.....enough to get you distracted and tied down. I wish it wasn't so....but it is. That is why they get tired of doing it...cos its fake.

Some men will even marry women they can't stand for the benefits of having a maid or their bills split in half. Some men will cheat when their wife is heavily pregnant. That's the level of contempt some have to the loyal women in their lives.

Why aren't those tales in Disney films? You already know why...they can't turn little girls into pick mes with that. But lots of men can get laid if you believe them. If you selflessly overlook all a scrotes flaws and believe all his sweet nothings, so he can use you to pump his esteem and get more.

They sell you fairytales that most men are just looking for the one and dying to spoil her. That they will magically change for the right woman and they'll have 3 wonderful kids and live happily ever after. No cheating, no gaslighting....just baking in the kitchen and cuddling eachother, whilst the kids happily run around playing to the sound of harps.

In reality you would hear 3 screeching children play fighting with eachother whilst a stress overworked mother runs around trying to make dinner after work....whilst her bumbling scrote reaches for his game controller before the wife screeches at him to get back in the kitchen and help her. Before they have another argument about how useless he is and she threatens to walk and stop giving him sex. That will be your life on repeat.

A lot of women project fantasy characters from romance novels onto men, or their own kindness and empathy onto them.

They watch too many romance movies and have this idea of a tall, dark handsome man with a deep, brooding mind.... coming to sweep them off their feet.

I understand the pull because of how underwhelming men are....but putting them on a false pedestal like this does you no favors, pumps their ego and causes you more hurt.

In reality, they're probably going to get some insecure red pilled Bumble dweeb with half formed muscles acting fake mysterious and purposely taking 6 hours to reply so he can make her anxious.

He will may or may not be able to keep his mask on past 3 months by flattering her, doing the bare minimum (some roses and nice cheap dates) and telling her what she wants to hear.

'Oh but I have butterflies despite the red flags!'....no that is the anxiety the scrote caused you from deliberately sending you mixed messages and lovebombing you. He purposely conducted all of that to his benefit, so you spend all your time over analysing every little thing he does whilst he texts 4 other women and laughs at you believing him behind your back.

In reality, most men are playing violent video games farting on their crusty gaming chairs, watching teenagers get choked out by three men in BDSM costumes on PornHub and they're flicking through multiple women in their contacts list to see if any of them would bite or flicking through multiple women's faces on dating apps hoping to strike a pick me with low esteem, so they can offer her a coffee date and casual sex. They are hoping to add her to their soft pick me haram so they can gloat to scrotes at work.

If you gave one of these scrotes a chance and listened to their monologues about how they are different, they would just do you dirty and run off with their ego freshly pumped.

It'll be you that deals with the emotional burden and aftermath of the betrayal, or the STI he gave you from cheating, or the money you wasted building him up. You'll be left putting your pieces back together.

In reality most men are not listening to Lana Del Rey musing about the one who got away on their train journeys. Men are not fed romance like women are, they mostly just use it to manipulate women into sleeping with them.

At most they are just seething mad she had the audacity to reject him for being an asshole. They are thinking 'how DARE she exercise power over me and cut me out, who does she think she is...I'm going to show the next one'. They are not self reflecting and changing for the better, they are learning how to become more manipulative.

They are not reading tons of articles on how to be the perfect partner to a woman and listening to what women actually want in a longterm partner.....they are more likely to be watching some Youtube video on how to manipulate a hot woman into sex and delude themselves that they are 'alpha men'.

This is the reality of most low value men- as mentioned in a post by a recent FDSer...most men are obsessed with dominance and social hierarchy and gaining power/money so they can get a trophy wife and fuck loads of teenagers. Yes even those so called awkward 'nice guys' who conveniently always want to get friendly when you're going through something....and seem to turn turn deaf when they hear the word NO.

The reality is even that 'not so bad scrote' will be far from what he claims. And you are not going to be satisfied if you're starting off with luke warm anxious feelings....in almost all cases that always tends to become an even worse scenario full of regret, lets be real.

He may play ball and simp for a while then he will slowly drop effort and begin his games.

Your new reality will be playing :

'How much audacity is he bringing today?'

'Was he actually at work when he said he was at work?'

'Why is this thick wit always grinning when telling me about his LONG day at work?'

'God he is boring, when is he going to stop going about himself?'

'Why do none of his grand plans and promises seem to materialise?'

'Why is that random woman calling his phone again? Why do I get the feeling hes rubbing disrespect in my face and enjoying it? Why is he doing that when I haven't done anything to him?'

'Why is he leering at waitresses in front of me, is he trying to purposely bother me?'

'Why is he acting flinchy with his phone and laptop but says I should trust him?'

'Why does he always have lame excuses for flicking his notifications away in front of me?'

'Why do I get feelings of unease and anxiety even when hes proclaiming he loves me and taking me on romantic dates?'

'Why is he treating me like his second mom or maid service?'

'Why does he claim he's a calm mature guy but keeps having temper tantrums over nothing?'

'Why is he screeching at me asking where I put his shirt when he constantly throws shit on the floor anyway? Why does he expect me to pick it up but then screeches at me when I tidy it away? Is this my future?'

'Why does he struggle to make me cum so much- do I even fancy him or was it just the lies and romance?'

'Why is he so pushy about kids or moving in together- this doesn't feel right. Like he's trying to rush me and trap me. What is the rush if hes staying forever and really a good guy?'

'Why does he constantly proclaim he cares and loves me but keeps showing me the stark opposite?'

'Why do I feel depressed, on edge and paranoid all the time if this is good for me?'

'Why does he keep claiming he's different but keeps doing the same things other scrotes do?'

'Am I here because I love him, or I'm just tired of dating, sexually frustrated and lonely?

If this guy does not make you feel substantially and consistently more satisfied than you are single- cut him LOOSE! He is deadweight! You will not even remember him in 5 years. Let him go!