Reminder: Limiting your potential is a form of abuse.

w0manifest · 2020-02-11T11:50:34+00:00

And a reminder: simply the absence of purposefully limiting potential isn't enough! a man who is or wants to be your husband should be putting you through school if you want a career, investing in your business if you're trying to start one up, paying for your gym membership if you want to get in shape. Not making you split bills and do the majority of the housework so you don't even have time or mental energy to think about how to level up.

so_crat_ic · 2020-02-11T12:12:41+00:00

I had two 8 year relationships. Neither boyfriend would let me go camping, travel, hang out with friends, or even start a garden.

These codependent betas, telling me Im lucky theyre interested, because Im a single mom. Boi GTFO.

I do what I want to, when I want to. No relationship with a man is worth putting your life on hold like that.

extraacct1234 · 2020-02-11T13:55:19+00:00

And what a terrible lesson to teach a man too, that you'll screw your life and give up your dreams just for him.

RobotAmerican · 2020-02-11T15:13:00+00:00

Although I had standards that were too low in the past, the #1 reason that I broke it off with guys was because they said something about limiting my potential. I always knew that my independence was VITAL, that women are oppressed through giving us less financial means and feminism should be about fighting that, and that a man being negative toward my self-improvement was the biggest red flag. They told me not to spend time on education, don't go for a good or better job, give up my ameloriating hobbies, etc. There was usually more going wrong in the relationship than that, but when I heard this kind of talk from him, I knew this was an instant block, delete. When I found someone that I considered a HVM, one of the criteria was that he wasn't just like "baby I take care u," but he was interested in my career and what I was doing for self-improvement, and was very, very encouraging of and invested in that, as well as my financial independence. He doesn't want me and my family to be screwed over if he dies because we were dependent on him, so he's never said to give up my career because his is better, not asked me to support him, nor asked me to share my property or savings with him. This is really important.

Balkanka · 2020-02-11T13:30:03+00:00

Another fab post that needs to be pinned/sidebar/handbooked!

psychsense · 2020-02-11T16:32:46+00:00

I know someone that went through 4 years of schooling in preparation to become a doctor of clinical psychology. All she had to do was one year paid internship to complete her degree. Well she quit after the four years to get married to a man with a high school education who makes less than she ever could. He’s a creep that openly hits on other people. Oh and they had a baby almost immediately. Women like that make it so hard for the feminist movement. We are only as strong as our weakest link and women like her are the weakest links. I can’t comprehend why a woman would become a doctor (in this case ALMOST become) just to become a slave to their husband instead.

New_acc03 · 2020-02-11T17:07:53+00:00

This is great. Thank you OP. I wish I had learned this life lesson earlier in life. It is abuse, it can derail your career, and your life.

quaintlyspoken · 2020-02-11T17:47:02+00:00

This is beautiful. Out here doing the Divine's work queen. 👑

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ComfortableHead3 · 2020-02-18T15:38:22+00:00

THE NOTE at the end. I wish there were emoji enough to express my thoughts on that item. Also, because I’m too....I don’t know what the specific word is, but rather than boss-ass bitch, I would like to become the author of my own agency (as in executive function, not a business).

Rather than being ruled by, and subject to an outside committee, I want to become a Sole P (proprietorship). I really appreciate all the posts of positive intent, support, encouragement, and the radical idea that just because you have had challenges in the past does not mean you cannot turn a corner now and change things for the better moving forwards.

My sincerest thanks and good wishes to all on this subreddit!!!!!

Title	Reminder: Limiting your potential is a form of abuse.
Author	NecessaryCook
Upvotes	157
Comments	12
Date	February 11, 2020 6:09 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/f248it/reminder_limiting_your_potential_is_a_form_of/
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