This isn’t related to dating, but I hope there are principles I can apply. I work for a large private corporation in the US which has ex military in most senior leadership positions.

First incident: I went into a male coworker’s office. His mousepad was a photo of a young woman with very large mostly exposed breasts. The mousepad was two large silicon mounds, which were her breasts, and to use the mousepad you place your wrist in the valley of the woman’s cleavage to operate the mouse on the mousepad.

I complained to HR and they deactivated his card access to the floor I work on. The building has three floors. Aside from this, I have no idea if he ever suffered any negative consequences.

Second incident: A different male coworker tells me that my name, first and last, is the same name as his favorite MMA fighter. I tell him that I haven’t heard of this MMA fighter. He brings up on his monitor a photo of a woman nude from the waist up and she’s covering her nipples with her hands. I don’t report this to HR but another coworker reports this to our boss. I have no idea if this man encountered any negative outcomes.

Third incident: A few days ago a male coworker walks past my desk and he has a pretty big hole in the butt seat of his jeans, about five inches long. His underwear and underwear covered butt is clearly visible through the hole. I don’t believe that this man intended to harass me, but really how hard is it to come to work with your butt covered?

Does this qualify as a toxic workplace? What would you do? I’m looking for another job, but I am being selective about where I’m willing to work and it may take some time.