Setting you up to prove yourself

2020-10-17T18:42:51+00:00

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seraphinelysion · 2020-10-18T00:07:07+00:00

Are you real? Nope.
Are you a fake profile? Yup.
Is your ______ real? Everything is 100% fake.
You seem cute. Seem? I AM CUTE!
What do you bring to the table? My own chair.
Are you going to take me out? Not a chance in hell.
When are you going to get me ______? Never.
You're cute when you're mad. I'm also cute when I'm GONE.

SadClownProstitute · 2020-10-17T18:44:07+00:00

This is great!

All of this stuff is an insidious form of negging.

Their goal is to put you in the frame of mind where they have a higher value, so they need you to prove that you can rise to their level. It's a technique they may be consciously or subconsciously using to knock you down a peg, to put you in the mindset where you feel like he's doubting your inherent goodness so you have an obligation to prove yourself to him.

I'm going to quote a PUA website but not link to it because they don't deserve the traffic.

The purpose of your neg is to break the frame of you being just another guy who’s hitting on her, to get around her bitch shield. You are demonstrating that you have not put her on a pedestal just because she’s an attractive woman.

ulqui4nn4 · 2020-10-17T21:59:34+00:00

you're cute when you're mad is just the worst

kettleodumplins · 2020-10-17T18:39:09+00:00

I also cut ghosters off immediately.

WorkofHeart2124 · 2020-10-18T01:48:25+00:00

I dropped that I have a membership to a certain location and an lvm asked me when I was taking him there. Ummm... No. I could bring a guest but I reserve that for family and friends. And I've been there a dozen times. What a horrible and cheap firat date idea.

misty-muse · 2020-10-18T15:54:32+00:00

Ugh, I’ve fallen hook, line, and sinker for the “are you real” question before. I replied with a candid selfie, feeling uncomfortable and put on the spot. I’m guessing that was the goal? 🤦🏼‍♀️

jessicat606 · 2020-10-18T15:31:34+00:00

When I was using OLD in the past this scrote kept insisting that I was a catfish and wanted me to send him an impromtu pic proving that it's not false "advertisement". Put him in his place and blocked the hell out of him, I don't need to prove myself to anyone

Horror_Maize_6546 · 2020-10-18T09:28:39+00:00

Are you real?

Are you a fake profile?

A guy approached me on Telegram out of the blue exactly like this. It sounded so dumb. I mean, you are the one who somehow found my profile, it's not like I'm out there blatantly trying to catch some prey. Blocked him right-away

fim_de_semana · 2020-10-18T14:20:18+00:00

I am the ~~one who knocks~~ table.

Title	Setting you up to prove yourself
Author	NecessaryCook
Upvotes	190
Comments	20
Date	October 17, 2020 6:06 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/jczzkr/setting_you_up_to_prove_yourself/
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