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So I tried "hooking up" ...

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October 6, 2021
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Title So I tried "hooking up" ...
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Upvotes 4
Comments 13
Date October 6, 2021 11:03 PM UTC
(4 years ago)
Subreddit Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/q2vqg1/so_i_tried_hooking_up/
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[–]arnezuaraFDS Apprentice 11 points12 points13 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Girl, he’s a sociopath. Chocking and covering your mouth? He is a dangerous predator, who gets off to rape and battery of women.

Block and delete him immediately. He could’ve hurt you more than you can imagine.

[–]dancedancedance7FDS Newbie 10 points11 points12 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

Ugh no hooking up is code for getting used. The dude wouldn't even buy you coffee, smh.

Also you bet he doesn't have a car. And isn't a medical student.

[–]ctrlcutieFDS Newbie -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago* (2 children) | Copy Link

I KNOW 😩 HE DIDN'T EVEN BUY ME A COFFEE lmao dumbest moment ever

I did so some reseach, he is premed and right now a behavior tech/therapist for teens with eating disorders. I thought that was a plus for some reason

[–]cheezbrodFDS Newbie 3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Honestly, after he said he wasn’t into eating and just wanted to get coffee, I already knew he wasn’t going to pay for your coffee

[–]lucidlotusFDS Newbie 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Therapists can be just as messed up as anyone. And many predators will use the helping professions as a guise to build trust and look good to the community.

[–]apple_coresFDS Newbie 13 points14 points15 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

Girl…did you read the handbook? Have you been reading all the guides and helpful posts on here? This post goes against everything FDS stands for. What are you looking for by posting this here? He’s not serious and now he holds the power because of what went down and you messaging him a couple of times with no reply from him. Block and delete and please don’t let any man choke you ever again.

[–]ctrlcutieFDS Newbie -5 points-4 points-3 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Just venting/happened before FDS, lesson learned lol

[–]apple_coresFDS Newbie 4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

I’m glad to hear it wasn’t too recent. Please block and delete. This man doesn’t respect you whatsoever. Exactly like you said, he won’t bother replying to you except when it suits him because he knows how most women are. He has the upper hand and he loves it. Maybe when he’s bored and lonely he’ll hit you up. Take away that power and don’t even give him the chance to do that.

Like another user mentioned, it’s ok to not want anything serious and date causally. But the FDS way is no sex until they prove commitment. That could be 3+ months (I suggest longer). If you do casual sex, you will only run into more issues like this. Also, there’s no such thing as friends with benefits. That implies friendship and benefits to both parties. That’s clearly not the case here and in most situations.

[–]DeterminedblondeFDS Newbie 6 points7 points8 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

This isn’t a usual FDS post, but I can get the logic in wanting to have fun after a serious (and usually overly intense) relationship. Sadly, the reality is not the fun, safe times we envisage.

[–]ctrlcutieFDS Newbie 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Well put! I learned that I just have to focus on myself and hookups just aren't my thing. This confirmed it.

[–]everwonderlustFDS Newbie 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Girl, you need to read the Handbook. We don’t do coffee dates and FDS doesn’t advocate hookups. You told him that you “don’t do hookups” but then and did it anyway. Now he knows that you are willing to go against your boundaries. This was not “a casual relationship”, this was a hookup. You’re not even FWB, just a hookup. I wouldn’t expect anything from him. If you’re seeking a serious relationship, I really recommend reading the Handbook.

[–]lucidlotusFDS Newbie 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Casual/fwb is just a hookup...repeated. The thing is that very few men after fwb really want to make the effort to “hang out and do activities.” They just want to get laid. This guy is awful.

I advise not getting in a car with any man you’ve just met. So much can go wrong.

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