so much fucking fish | FemaleDatingStrategy

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This was so conditional, lots of guys don’t elicit that many feelings and have small dicks that they don’t know how to use. I liked one with an avg size and i couldn’t feel anything in cowgirl which was one of my fave positions. And that’s a common theme, certain positions and acts are impossible for you if they have a certain size.

If the focus is on personal sexual gratification then it’s more than fair to eliminate men below a certain size from your dating pool. If that’s something that makes you post on “smalldickproblems” and develop insecurities after being rejected by someone who isn’t attracted to you then it speaks to male entitlement and they need therapy. Attraction is a two way street, I can have any reason I want to not be attracted to you, dumb as they may be. However, what matters is how I convey that

“I do not find you attractive because you’re smaller than I’m used to and sex is an important factor to me” vs “You’re a shrimp dick and that’s disgusting”

As for the height thing, I’m 5’7. I’d never date a man the same height as me or below.

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I have a friend who is something like 4’11. She’s down to date like 5’0 and above lol, even dudes basically her height. Unless you’re literally a “little person” there are smaller ladies out there who will be fine with your height.

For me, I’m between 5’3 and 5’4. It’s not actually height that I care about when it comes to men who are very close to my own, it’s the fact that they tend to be very very small everywhere unless they are active at the gym: tiny pelvis, ass, waist, etc. a guy that was short and muscular can get it. A guy that my 135 lb ass feels like a land whale next to or like his pelvis might shatter if I’m on top? My lizard brain intrinsically shuts down any attraction. A lot of men my height aren’t just short they weigh like 120 lbs and yeah that’s not attractive, just like if I gained 70 lbs and was 205 that would not be attractive.

Basically get thee to a gym and build some muscle, go for the tiny ladies out there we are legion

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Well. I hooked up with a short ripped guy for a while and his height had nothing to do with why I ended it. He was around my height, maybe a couple inches taller?

But yeah most women want a dude their height or taller. Lucky for dudes women average like 5’3 with many above AND below that height. Don’t act like there aren’t a ton of 5’0-5’4 women out there you could go for.

Also, miss me with this whining. At one point I was 165 lbs and men’s interest in me plummeted. Many women suffer from weight issues that they can’t mentally control (without surgeries, which many can’t afford) and boom! Invisible to all men. For the women whose weight gets REALLY out fo control there’s no “well you can lose weight, I can’t get taller” argument because even if they do they have tons of lbs of skin hanging off them and will still be considered unattractive to men without several rounds of plastic surgery ($$$$$$) and maybe not even then.

I’m one of the lucky ones who doesn’t actually suffer from a literal eating disorder so I just lost the weight and it was back to business as usual.

But yeah there are physical attributes that people find unattractive. That’s life. Instead of crying about it search for the ones who find you attractive.

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My current partner is massive and sometimes it hurts. What glitters is not always gold LOL. He’s super awesome at all the non PIV forms of sex, very patient and attentive and always willing to get me off or help me get there so I deal with the “aaahhh my cervix be careful!!” During that time of the month. I wish he was a bit smaller though tbh 🤣

I’m small (5’3-5’4) and I also don’t mind smaller dudes as long as they’re fit. I don’t get being a small lady and only going for behemoth men. My bfs have been pretty tall but not because I go for tall dudes specifically, it’s because tall dudes go for me. I’m not the one instigating things and approaching b/c female socialization, the men who have been consistently interested in me (and not shitty fuckboys) enough to date have randomly been 6’0+. I saw a shorter ripped guy for a while and he was sexy as fuck though. He as maybeeee 5’6. And a total idiot fuckboy so I cut that out pretty quick. But not because he wasn’t hot lmao

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people are allowed to have standards.

it's not that unreasonable to want to date someone who (like me/ or OP) has some money and a good work ethic. like i can understand dating someone with a lower income, but suggesting that OP is shallow for not dating BROKE people is fucking next level.

as for the 5''7 thing- also not an unreasonable expectation.

the mean height for men is 5''10- there are a shit tonne of guys within this height range. OP could only date 5''10 guys for the rest of her life and die before she dates all of them.

in fact there's a much lower percentage of men who are 5''7 and below than there are men of an average height.

there are plenty of high quality men for OP to choose from who aren't 5''7 and broke. she does NOT need to lower her standards to rock bottom to find someone who's gonna treat her right.

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Title	so much fucking fish
Author	normabelka
Upvotes	193
Comments	133
Date	September 16, 2019 6:21 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/d4wrgl/so_much_fucking_fish/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/so-much-fucking-fish.690575 https://theredarchive.com/post/690575

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