This is the third or fourth post about the same person!
So background story: I (35F) met a guy (30M), let's call him Gee two months ago on a Meetup and we hit it off very well. He coincidentally also works for my company so I felt a little more safe and psychologically felt he can be friends with and is harmless. Anywho, we have hung out as friends and had some cool fun time - played video games, karoke, Netflix, movies etc. He flirted a lot with me and I had a feeling he was definitely showing interest in me. Over the period of time it was apparent he was looking for a casual relationship, he is also different than I am in terms of lifestyle- does weed, prompted me a lot to try it, isn't into fitness, less goals and more just having "fun". We have never gotten intimate.
One week ago we hung out at my place, I was cuddling with him on the couch just in a friendly way but he attempted to get intimate, I was very much in control (as much tempting as it was); but the next day when he asked me if we want to hangout again I mentioned to him we shouldn't hangout anymore since we both are looking for different things interms of relationship (I am looking for a serious relationship). He replied to my text saying why "relationship" is even a factor here and I just stopped texting and he didn't continue either.
Two days back out of boredom and being holed up at home and getting irritated I texted him on my office network and just said hi and how he was doing surviving the stuck at home situation. I also before signing off said to him how we had a good friendship and he ruined it. He went on to say something but I reminded him we are on the office network. So he texted me back on my phone (it's been a week since we did after my last no contact) - I told him we could have helped each other during this indoor situation but he ruined our friendship and that he didn't even apologize. He replied back saying he isn't apologetic about what he did and that he found it tempting and didnt sound like a big deal.
Here is the real issue: Yesterday someone looked up at my LinkedIn profile from my company who isn't part of my network . When I looked him up in my company network this person is an intern in the same group as Gee.
Yesterday, later in the day Gee texts me and said he is willing to calm his desires for me and can still be friends with me!! The only questioned I had for him was If he knew the intern to which he mentioned he spoke to this kid for the first time yesterday. I asked him if he mentioned about me to this intern but he denied, he some how makes it sound like the intern could have access to our conversation on the company internal Network a day ago. It makes no sense to me and as an intern you don't get this level of access, I have a feeling Gee definitely said something about me to this kid and he looked me up! I generally never get involved with anyone at work because of reasons like this. Gee sounds very nonchalant and generally doesn't really care much!
I was almost going to hangout with him again; but there are too many red flags, way too many. Nothing sounds good here; am I missing something?
Edit: the only reason I said he ruined the friendship was that during this whole lockdown period we both were helping each other distract; it's a combination of boredome , loneliness and having someone to keep your mind off!
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