What do you guys do when you break off a long relationship with a LVM but still miss the good times?

MaterialDragonfruit2 · 2020-05-03T03:20:41+00:00

Something that has helped me, is to remember that you can have these feelings, but you don't have to act on them. The thoughts will pass. Time will also help with this.

xxritualhowelsxx · 2020-05-03T03:21:51+00:00

I think that while it’s important to cherish the good memories, it’s just as important not to forget the bad. Personally whenever I start missing people I’ve cut out of my life I purposely remind myself of the bad things they did to me. Because as time passes we tend to forget those and only remember the good things. I prefer to just make my own little bubble of good memories and go back to them through music and pictures. Never to reconnect because things didn’t work out for a reason. I think it’s also important to understand that past a certain age people just don’t change their ways anymore. So if they treated you poorly, chances are they would eventually do it again if you were to reconnect. Speaking from personal experience.

Salty-Tomorrow · 2020-05-03T04:07:13+00:00

Every time you catch yourself thinking something positive about him, remind yourself of a time he treated you poorly. It gets easier eventually, I promise ❤️

mostlymaya · 2020-05-03T14:36:21+00:00

Two things work for me. First, I allow myself to mourn, even cry if i am feeling blue, but only for a limited time. 10 minutes - then i get moving on a chore on my list, or read a few chapters in my book, get on reddit, whatever. I just make it a habit of giving my sorrow a good workout for a few minutes and then switch my physical/mental state. I feel better honoring how i really feel and then feel even better about my ability to leave it behind after a few minutes. I always tell myself i can have another 10 minutes later to feel sad if i really want to.

Second, I "remember the future". I think about how I will feel in a year looking back on this - because the odds are I will be in a totally different place. When I put myself in a future state, and look back and where I am now it puts everything in perspective. I can see that I'm in a painful transition but all it takes is time and practice but it will soon be a memory and maybe even a story I'll tell about how I got over someone.

gcthrowaway2019 · 2020-05-03T14:28:48+00:00

You remember the bad times and how they vastly outnumbered the good times or else you'd still be together.

Like how they tell you it's time to put down your ageing dog bc they're having more bad days than good ones.

michelle27519 · 2020-05-03T15:17:52+00:00

Make a list of all the terrible things he did. I put it in my iPhone notes. So whenever I feel like I’m missing him I look at the list.

Dont_Settle_for_Less · 2020-05-04T11:06:02+00:00

I just acknowledge and appreciate the good memories but also know that those moments don't define your ex. You broke up for a reason.

Title	What do you guys do when you break off a long relationship with a LVM but still miss the good times?
Author	Ratataratata22
Upvotes	22
Comments	13
Date	May 3, 2020 3:13 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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