What Is Self-Gaslighting?

meat_brick · 2021-09-12T04:13:24+00:00

I did this so much in my marriage. I started writing everything down so I could go back and reassure myself that it was all real.

kinkardine · 2021-09-12T05:16:05+00:00

Wow so much hugs to her and all those who experienced this. My mom always wanted to make me feel guilty (even for sleeping at night), and I kind of drew a solid boundary there - for some reason I felt she did not like me and I stopped internalizing her reaction towards me, rather started to tackle situation as they rise, I also started giving me a hug because I knew I would not receive it from my parents.

dating-adventures · 2021-09-12T04:41:52+00:00

This is why it’s so important to write a list of red flags after every relationship so you don’t ever risk going back. I’m in the process of finishing my list with NVX and I’m disgusted with myself for what I put up with… and am remembering that yes it was real, I’m not imagining the stuff he did.

InspectorGadget07 · 2021-09-12T14:01:27+00:00

Nothing’s worse than the trauma of not being believed. Or if people insinuating you deserved what you got, or they don’t fully believe it’s not your fault.

InaneObservations · 2021-09-13T18:59:36+00:00

I struggle with this daily. I was married to a manipulative gaslighter for a long time, and he would constantly rewrite history after the fact, then tell me that I was misremembering/overreacting/dwelling too long on things he did that upset me. Now I have what I've come to realize is basically a trauma response of poor memory and self-gaslighting.

Journaling has been a big help. Even when I feel like my self-perception of a situation or event is off, or I'm starting to think, "Oh, it wasn't so bad," it still helps to see what my emotions and thoughts were in the moment, as well as the actual circumstances. It's very validating.

Title	What Is Self-Gaslighting?
Author	Love_Artemis
Upvotes	94
Comments	6
Date	September 12, 2021 2:51 AM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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