Allow a man to pursue you. When a man pursues you himself he is relinquishing an aspect of power in the relationship(his desire for you to begin to reciprocate romantic interest), and you won't be devalued by those around you and face the negative social consequences. As much as pickmeisha liberal feminists and men like to retort that a women should be able to pursue a man, even if you should be able to pursue a man, it does not change the fact that a women is immediately perceived by everyone including the flattered man as desperate and of lower value for pursuing a man.

In a small sense, a man who pursues a women is more likely to value her because of the "obstacles" he had to overcome to reach out to the women. When a man decides to pursue a women, his interest in you romantically is more certain, while it is less certain if you are the one who decides to pursue.

On twitter, I saw a post that said that women who make the first move are a turn on. And that is all that you are essentially if you make the first move. You are an ego boost, you are feeding into that man's high perception of themselves. A defining trait of low-value men is their inability to pursue women. They have always expected women to pursue them, because they are the ones who need to seduced and desired. Your desire for them feeds into the love that they feel for themselves. But when a man pursues a women he must face the possibility of rejection for a women he truly desires he must become vulnerable to her.

When you allow a man to pursue you, you are setting the stage for a natural and healthy relationship. I have observed that a common aspect of strong and enduring romantic relationships is when the man has pursued the women first or when the man loves the women more than the women does. Do not be fooled by the success stories. In my own family, my mom pursued my dad, and though they have remained together for twenty-five years and have much success, and many good moments. She has always felt undervalued and undesired.

I encourage you to be ashamed at the thought of becoming vulnerable for a man by deciding to pursue him, especially when you do not have to. Pursuing you is something that he has been conditioned to do, while you are expected to wait for him. And while this is apart of the patriarchy, it comes with many benefits for women. Those who complain about pursuing a women are lazy and want to feed their ego.