Words to LIVE BY

open_heart_shrink · 2020-06-07T18:28:46+00:00

Don’t be hard on yourself if it’s difficult. Toxic men use intermittent reinforcement to create anxiety and confusion in their target. You are understandably anxious and confused because they are intending to do this to you so they have power over you. It’s sick. It’s abusive. Get support and get out of this situation.

rabidreader67 · 2020-06-07T16:47:16+00:00

Thank you for this, I just took a screenshot of it to remind myself!

notochord · 2020-06-07T20:30:28+00:00

Thank you for posting this! I am going to save it to my phone as well. Now that I’ve broken up with my boyfriend he is being strangely nice to me while he is packing up his things to move out of my house.

It’s important to remember all the times I called my friends in tears because he said such hurtful things to me.

xlillinxysx · 2020-06-07T23:18:00+00:00

I can't believe I spent 12 months of my life begging my ex to talk to me, to see me, to call me once or text me once. For months and months he'd lie straight to my face and say he'd "try harder" but never did. Man what a waste of time.

Postcardtoalake · 2020-06-07T19:55:55+00:00

Words I’m writing in the notes section of my Birth father’s phone so that I DON’T CALL HIM.

tonha_da_pamonha · 2020-06-07T19:09:27+00:00

This is the embodiment of this sub!

SayNad · 2020-06-07T23:42:44+00:00

Plus if he hits you every time he gets angry, no matter how soft that hitting is - that's not "love". That's abuse and deserve 0 toleration. If he wants to let off steam he will go find an actual punching bag.

Decent people get angry but they'll never hurt someone they love. Ever.

TsunderePeopleRules · 2020-06-07T16:39:20+00:00

sad but true u_u

HoneyNJ2000 · 2020-06-08T00:30:40+00:00

LOL...someone needs to go tell the women that over on the r/DeadBedrooms sub. Those women are pitiful and are literally willing to settle for crumbs.

msromperstomper · 2020-06-08T21:12:36+00:00

When I think about all the wasted hours that I've spent ruminating, obsessing, and journaling about this behavior....it's infuriating. What's so empowering about FDS is that it cuts through all that. Anytime I find myself going into one of these spirals, I realize that I can come here for reinforcement. Time to spend all this time and energy leveling up.

girlanarchy · 2020-06-07T17:54:23+00:00

Yup, don’t try to live on the bread crumbs these dudes leave instead.

Title	Words to LIVE BY
Author	cutsforluck
Upvotes	2232
Comments	24
Date	June 7, 2020 2:57 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/gydw0h/words_to_live_by/
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