Men, share your experience with misandry and help other men recognize it and speak up!

ReclaimingMine · 2025-07-16T11:13:45+00:00

Workplace still pushes gender roles.

I worked in microbiology department, with other 4 co workers who are all women.

My supervisor, a man, still hands me the hardest tasks and tests.Supposedly, all of the women complained that this test is “too hard” on them so I got it by default. They all know they will do these varying work when they applied for this job.

We all roughly make same salary with years of experience adjusting it by 3-5k.

I did it for couple of years before I moved on to another department. I didn’t speak up much because anytime I brought it up, it’s always played down.

DJBlay · 2025-07-16T13:40:40+00:00

Go watch any sitcom and you cant unsee it now. The way men were written—aloof, unintelligent, incapable, etc.

maboh1312 · 2025-07-16T14:23:30+00:00

I've been in a week long holiday trip with 3 female friends. We are friends and we share many intrest and normally everithing is very fine, but on the long run I felt constantly under "attack".

the girls were constantly complaining about men "they don’t understand anything" "they aren’t able to complete the simplest tasks" "they can’t do more than one thing at a time" constantly belittling everything I did to contribute to the trip (driving, buying food for everyone, checking the road, helping with the planning of the next stops, searching and sharing turistic and historic informations about what we visited)

At the same time they boasted and praised everything they did: "we are much better than men at everything"... But the truth is that it wasn't really like that: for example, we had rented a car, and we took turns driving, me and another girl. She wasn't a bad driver, but she wasn't an excellent driver either; she would easily get confused almost to the point of panic, often made very serious mistakes in navigation (we even ended up on a closed road by going through the barriers), made sudden brakes and accelerations, and rough gear changes, making the entire journey uncomfortable and giving no sense of safety at all. And the worst of all is that when I tried to tell her "It's ok, but please at least slow down so you have more time to react correctly to the road situation" she and the others girls where like "shut up, we drive just as good as you"

And this is not true at all. Another example: getting around in the city or using the GPS during car trips. When they set up the GPS, they always did it in a rough manner, without checking if it was actually set up correctly, sometimes leading us off track in a blatant way and especially without feeling responsible. By the end of the trip, I was the only one who had learned how the car's GPS worked; they had no idea how it functioned, when it required an adjustment, and when I was driving, I was forced to make adjustments while driving or to stop by the roadside because none of them could do it. When I wasn't driving, I even had to do it from the back seat.

In this story, misandry is mainly in the fact that never once did they feel it necessary to thank me or appreciate me for the contribution I made to the journey, for having supported them in a time of difficulty (something that happened again and again). On the contrary, they never missed an opportunity to belittle me and diminish my abilities just because I'm a man.

CauliflowerActual178 · 2025-07-16T14:31:43+00:00

I posted this on this same group time ago, but i think this story fits very well here:

Discrimination in hospital care

I work in a post surgical intensive care unit, of course most patients have severe post surgical pain that need multiple treatments. About 70% of the doctors are women, similar situation with the nurses. Yesterday at the handover between shifts I was the only male doctor in the room, and the only man in the whole ICU staff. During the handover discussion the doctors started talking about a male patient who had a pretty big surgery, who was in severe pain and agitation despite the treatment, and they all agreed that it was exaggerating and not needing particular attention because "male always exagerate their pain" . I found this very offensive because this implies a sistematic discrimination in patient care, because on the other hand femal patient are much more likely to get attentions and treatment even when the pain perception ( because pain is a perception, not something that can be measured) is mostly exacerbated by psychology, fear, anxiety etc. But worst part of the story is that I felt unable to stand up against this discrimination because I was alone against a very ideologically compact and aggressive group, that they would minimize and blame me for being against them...

Blauwpetje · 2025-07-17T17:24:10+00:00

It’s hard. I probably see more double standards and indifference than outright misandry.

It’s what a lot of trans men (I am cis) experience to their horror: you can be lonely and suffer and nobody gives a damn, women least of all. Cis men are so used to that they often hardly even notice it.

True, when men do care for women having a hard time, there may sometimes be a small sexual aspect in that. But that’s not the same as offering help and demanding sex in exchange, or even think about that.

About ten years ago I had this thought: why did so few people help me, really help me, with the many hard times I had in life? Now I realise the answer is quite easy: because I’m a man.

Outright misandry I didn’t experience close around me. But probably I just avoided misandrists, and hardly ever had a job in which I had to cooperate in a group (mostly freelance work online).

Misandry on social and other online media I (of course) experienced more than enough. But that goes for everybody here, so that’s hardly an interesting story.

Former_Range_1730 · 2025-07-18T02:21:20+00:00

Just check out 2XChromo. Plenty of misandry there.

Alternative_Poem445 · 2025-07-16T21:04:46+00:00

one thing i’ve been thinking about lately is how my older sister sexually abused me with frequency as a kid. lot of castration humor and penis envy. my parents laughed it off. she would strike me in my genitals and laugh. one time i kicked her between the legs in return and she had a complete meltdown and my mother took her out of school for the day.

koryogalbi · 2025-07-17T03:36:18+00:00

As a Korean living in America, misandry against Asian men amongst Asian American community is alive and real.

Asian men, regardless of what our beliefs, actions, or relationships we have with women in our lives, we are automatically seen as "red flag". We are universally blamed for all the cases of DV, SA, PD, and other heinous crimes that are reported on news media. Asian women project their negative experiences on to us, even if we barely know them.

On top of that body shaming Asian women is never ok but belittling our issues with body image, especially small dick jokes is something we just gotta "get over".

People outside Asian American community thinks because of popularity of Kpop and Anime that such blatant misandrist messaging will not be an issue but it is not. You don't need to look far to see foreigners living in our country complaining about how Asian men are terrible misogynist rapists and that they'll never feel safe around Asian men while living in our country.

And whenever I try to bring these issues up with mental health therapists they just don't seem to understand. Worse they turn around and say things like "what are some things you can do to change/challenge those perceptions?" Like what? I was just living my life, doing my best to be respectful, kind, supporting women's rights, and not do the things that I know that happens. But it's not enough, we are judged, tried, and convicted of crimes we do not commit. Crimes committed by men that will not listen when we spoke out against it.

I am tired. I am tired of being seen as tyrannical evil breed of men by women in my culture and community. All the while people who don't understand telling me to "get over it" or "Kpop and Anime means being Asian is cool".

ranting80 · 2025-07-18T15:42:05+00:00

Lost my virginity wasted out of my mind over a heap of clothes to an older girl. Didn't realize who it was, thought it was my crush and was told I must have wanted it by people for years. Even had people laugh at the story.

Vegetable_Ad1732 · 2025-07-18T19:48:58+00:00

I recently posted on a local email app about efforts to get the UN to recognize international men's day (check the link below if you want to know about it). Most of the comments I got were hateful. "Every day is men's day", "exactly how are men oppressed", and so on. I pointed out the UN has Toilet Day, but it cannot have mens day? Did not matter. They even succeeded in getting the post taken down because it was not a "local issue". What a load of BS!!

https://www.reddit.com/r/MensRights/comments/1lyfvbb/update_yes_someone_is_trying_to_get_the_un_to/

PuzzleheadedShoe5829 · 2025-07-19T20:30:50+00:00

Oh boy where do I start:

Generally just casually being told because I’m a man I’m dangerous by people.
Getting hit in the face by a random drunk woman, asking the police to take her away. They ignored me until I asked “Would you act the same if I turned around and knocked her out” at which point they then scold me for talking about hitting a woman
Being touched randomly by women and being told its ok because men do it to women
Being made to do all the “men” things at a job like lifting heavy objects, taking out trash, etc while being paid the exact same

CatchWild9531 · 2025-07-20T09:25:09+00:00

During my school days and also in my college, teachers would make male students do physically demanding jobs such as moving a table/heavy objects from one place to another .

When teachers ask for help and if no one raises their hand for volunteer then teachers would only choose from male students for help to any physically laborious works .

People basically think like this by default, physically demanding job = work for men/boys

Teachers would also beat / punish little boys but not little girls for the same mistake during my school days .

I have a male relative who is retired and his wife is working/ not retired yet and his own kids shame/insult him for not having a job . He is basically a house husband now and he does household work and yet his own kids shame him .

Glassyeyebrian · 2025-07-17T14:47:09+00:00

I had fake female friends. They kept pretending to like me which was really fucking annoying. But it could be their attempt at bro humor.

LanaDelHeeey · 2025-07-19T14:17:18+00:00

Idk if this is exactly misandry, but I, a gay man, was accused in college by a female fellow student of touching her ass. I barely even knew who she was, we only interacted maybe two or three times, and I was at least 20 feet away in a crowd of people when it allegedly happened. Eventually she admitted to lying but that wasn’t until like a year later and everyone by that time thought me a creepy sex pest pretending to be gay so i could touch women. I literally have no desire whatsoever to touch any woman, consensual or otherwise.

radcash · 2025-07-22T01:43:00+00:00

My mother raped and abused me throughout my childhood, because of my dad divorcing her. She then took it out on me. When i was a teenager my morher OD’d my divorced father. She went to jail. Putting me in foster care. Ive been used by toxic women faking to be my partner for money for her to get her “revenge” on men. And Sexist comments.

But i dont judge women for this. As its wrong. I hold the individuals actions accountable and not their gender.

coffeegrounds42 · 2025-07-21T00:12:57+00:00

Whether it's sexism, racism, bigotry or whatever you need to call it out when you see it or it will keep happening!

Title	Men, share your experience with misandry and help other men recognize it and speak up!
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Date	July 16, 2025 3:31 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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