I don't know about the rest of you, but it feels like there is a near inescapable tide of misandry going on, especially now that people are using the Epstein files to justify it while erasing female perpetrators and male victims.

Part of it for the online portions is just the nature of algorithms and the internet, but it's in the real world too and it feels like a lot of progress we had has backslid rapidly. In light of that, and if the mods allow it (I understand if this post is considered low effort) I figured the sub could use some building each other upSo my questions are; what do you admire or love about men, and what motivates you to keep advocating for men?

Going first I guess: I cherish the many men I know; as a bi guy who struggled a lot with his sexuality, it was my buddies who made it easiest for me to come out. And while I used to hate my sexuality, I have come to appreciate it; I am glad I can appreciate the natural beauty of men in all their forms, and I'm glad I have the ability to love and be loved by other men in all ways. I think it is a blessing to be able to love other men this way.

While I don't think men should be expected to, I admire how many men are truly selfless and do choose to put themselves at risk for others. Men do the majority of by stander rescues and many emergency services rely on men. I admire my male friends and family who have gone through hell and back and just quietly continue to help others, even if I wish they would put themselves first more.

It's those men who make me an advocate; it's my friends who were abused and told it didn't matter, my family who never received the help they needed, or harmed when they did. It's the trans men I know who feel shame to transition, the gay and bi boys who feel like their attraction to the same gender is a curse. For the men denied safety, denied empathy, and denied recognition.

I want a world that is kind to men; that recognizes us as more than predators or guardians; one that lets us be unmanly without justification, vulnerable without stipulations, and victims without a disclaimer.

Despite it all, despite my pessimism, I do think the tide will turn for us, and we, along with everyone else, will have the care and justice all of us deserve