How do you guys do this?

DangZagnut · 2020-03-07T16:51:09+00:00

I dislike, strongly, shooting myself in the leg. After the 8th or 9th time, you realize that, despite your rights to own one, maybe guns just aren't for you.

I've never even shot myself in the leg, yet I still don't need a gun.

Just don't....need it.

Bokulence · 2020-03-07T17:07:36+00:00

By seeing the reality and accepting it.

Is the hardest thing a guy will do in his life.

Is not easy. There will be constant battle within yourself, accepting it, wanting to return to dating,be angry and so on.

carbonblob · 2020-03-07T20:18:55+00:00

Instincts suggest it's unnatural not to have women in your life.

BUT from 2000 afterwards... it's illogical. So I replaced all that time and effort chasing and attempting to keep women into career/businesses instead.

Relationships were once like Russian Roulette:

6 cylinder gun, one real bullet inside.

NOW?

5 real bullets inside, one blank.

2020-03-07T20:21:23+00:00

Society has been conditioning you since you were young to behave in a way that benefits society. It will be really hard to break through that conditioning

PrinceRaj53 · 2020-03-07T17:20:32+00:00

How do you all just go on past this age being OKAY without dating or wanting to get married or have kids

Well casual flings can't be considered as dating as men go for dates to "take further steps" or whatever stuff that means (while I do only for a casual fling) so I cant count mine as dating.

As for marriage and the desire to have kids, well, I just don't like doing a job with no wage and a false promise of getting my salary next month, "hey don't worry you will get your salary/benefits, you just need to work harder". Doesn't sound like a good deal to me.

As for kids, majority of men who are willfully ignorant, don't understand this :

Your children do not belong to you/the father. They belong to the government and the woman/wife/mother. Now, why would I invest in making something better, when that "something"(kids here) does not even belong to me in the first place?

Think about it and see how your desire for LTR/marriage and kids go away slowly. The key is understanding the male female dynamics, how women operate and how relationships in reality are just a power play for the woman and a wageless job for you.

bobbiscotti · 2020-03-07T20:13:26+00:00

Once you have a hard enough experience, you’ll ask the opposite question: How the hell do men who are always in relationships stay sane?

How do I do it? Shit it’s easy as hell. I just do what I want, when I want. I go places, I see things, I enjoy new experiences. I’m pretty young just like you. I used to feel jealous when I saw men with other women having a good time. Now I just feel sorry for them.

I can wake up, get all my stuff together, and be out of the hotel room in 20 minutes no problem. With a woman? That process took 1-2 hours, with her “getting ready” to literally sit in a car for 4 hours, AND I would have to carry her stuff out if I wanted it to happen in a reasonable amount of time. When I drive through a new town or go into a store, I don’t have to lazily walk through every aisle while she figures out what I’m going to buy her. I just get what I want and go. It’s so much easier and faster, it’s almost astounding.

Get out there and have fun!

sootlord · 2020-03-07T17:54:41+00:00

You can only either love women or understand them. Your choice. They only want you for what you can provide, they are merely kids in a womans bodu

jokertriad · 2020-03-07T18:54:17+00:00

You can date, just don’t get invested. Treat women like the rental cars they are

Fhaze1117 · 2020-03-07T18:35:19+00:00

Accept that it's an inevitable part of dating. Realize that there are guys out there taller,way more handsome,richer,more famous,bigger di*k size out here than you and there's nothing you can do about her dumping you branching out to someone better. Just be the best version of yourself you can be and don't worry about it and accept the fact that women are hypergamous. It's thier nature.

lastminutedash · 2020-03-07T19:53:23+00:00

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Ocjab · 2020-03-07T21:36:18+00:00

Here is a question for you. Why do you crave female validation? Why do you crave external validation?

Only children require external validation and they base their entire world on it. It's time to move on brother. Let it go. The only validation you need is your own. Because when the shit hits the fan, no one gives a fuck about you. It's time to focus on yourself, grow, improve and become the best you can be. So that in the end, you will die with a smile on your face knowing you gave it your god damn best shot!

MuscleDruid · 2020-03-07T17:14:42+00:00

Every single minute spent chasing pussy is a minute not spent chasing my personal accomplishment. It's that simple for me. If you're not monk, anyway, women are a collateral of an accomplished lifestyle. Focus on yourself.

KUL-DANK · 2020-03-07T20:27:50+00:00

I think its the mindset.

I never wanted to be married with kids, even in the 7th grade i said no, i was more about the money.

By the age of 18 i wanted to have a gf and i had a few girls lined up, but it never became anything serious.

Now that im 25, im back to the mindset of beeing all about the money, because i understand that women today are completely worthless.

Treat them bad and they come to you and once you start to treat them nicely, they think youre weak and they will try to walk all over you. Modern women are trash and thats a fact.

joeshmo7777 · 2020-03-07T21:37:11+00:00

I honestly believe that its not really achievable if you below 35.

The hormones are too strong. Just pump and dump and dont co habitat

lastminutedash · 2020-03-07T21:30:08+00:00

For me it's a bit different... I haven't actually gone on a full relationship, but I've seen all the issues that other people have had. My parents, their new partners, issues with them too, friends, relatives.

Much like how a vegetarian avoids sausages because they want to prevent animals suffering, I now avoid girls because I want to prevent my own suffering.

Sure, sausages taste nice, but if you're a veggie, you aren't avoiding them because of the taste.

Equivalent-Craft · 2020-03-07T22:56:09+00:00

I hav a fuk buddy. You just needa put rules in place. I never had the urge for kids, i dont wanna lose everything i own. And marriage...ur inviting the government into ur life. Bit like a threesome really only youll b the one to get fucked.

custoscustodis · 2020-03-08T01:44:03+00:00

Take off at least 3 months from dating and even FWBs. Clear your contacts.

The peace of not wondering who's texting you, or why they aren't texting you, or should you text them will all be out the window. Just that will help open your eyes. Good luck!

scocasso · 2020-03-08T02:34:41+00:00

For me... imagine I'm a big nail, and women are a hammer, and they pounded me down down down into the ground. Just like that. I kept making excuses, like, 'well, they're not all like that, I just have to find the right one...' and there were a couple times I thought I found the right one, and it was SO terrible what they did to me, after 5 years together. It took a long time to recover. Years. Then, eventually, I found someone else. This time, she waited even longer to do much much worse to me than the first one did, but although it was so very terrible, I had to get my shit together fast, and fight through it, and rather than going inward like I did the first time, I lashed out like an injured tiger the second time because she tried to take my kids from me. With the help of some of my friends, I fuck'n won out. These cunts sneak up and stab you in the back, then they try to use others to try and take you out while you're down. Anyway, after that, fuck it, never again. Plus, the feminists have taken over now, so it's WAY too risky. Sex is fun, but it's not THAT fun. Now, I look at sex (any contact with women in general) like an addict looks at drugs or alcohol... all it takes is one time, and it can fuck you up, maybe for the rest of your life. I always wanted to have kid, and if I was in your position right now, I'd adopt or have surrogate children, and do some serious legal shit to make sure that nobody could track me down later to try and take them back or some shit like that -- work it all out with my lawyers etc. beforehand and make sure it's air-tight, like the parents died in a car accident and there are no other relatives left alive, for example.

sigma1932 · 2020-03-08T07:33:44+00:00

Thinking of my unborn children and protecting them from being raised in a broken home with a psycho for a mother did it for me. Had all the pussy I needed by the time I was 22 to know that pussy is worthless, subsequently went Vol-cel (at least as far as intercourse went since that's what causes pregnancy) pending her showing she knew how to be a wife, then after being disappointed for the better part of two decades by the lack of women worth persuing, eventually went monk when I stopped giving a shit about having kids.

Helps that I was born to silent generation parents (i.e. the generation BEFORE the baby-boomers) despite being born at the end of Gen-X, and grew up in an extremely stable trad-con family (only 2 divorces among 14 marriages spanning 3 generations from my grandparents down to my sibllings).... the women I grew up with set the bar high for what standard I should expect a female partner to meet.

And yes, I believe the trad-con, pair-bonding structure works, but only when society checks BOTH sexes' nature... our current cultural climate is completely fucked because only the men are checked (and then to a crippling extent), while the women act like rabid, feral animals and spoiled rebellious teenagers.

As a sidenote, you have no idea how much it fucks with a modern woman's head when she can't control a man with pussy... you can literally see their face go blank when their brain short circuits into a BSOD moment and they have to take a second to reboot.

maxtorrz · 2020-03-07T17:25:53+00:00

You just stop giving a fuck about what others think. Do you ACTUALLY want a wife and a white picket fence and kids? Or has that idea been forced on you so much you THINK its what you want? If your doing it for religious reasons that's a whole nother plane of idiocy. God is a made up control mechanism. Live for yourself.

Nathaniel66 · 2020-03-07T17:30:08+00:00

Well...i did marry to my 1st girl, and have kids. So not all of us stay single.

YouCan_Go_Ur_Own_Way · 2020-03-07T19:46:05+00:00

at some point I realized that dating isn’t pure up-side, it costs time, money, energy, and significant emotional investment. I can think of more than a few alternative uses for that stuff that are certain compared to the gamble that dating is. Also I dislike gambling generally.

I don’t care for casual relationships because they’re either meaningless or someone gets hurt, more often than not it’s the latter. I can see myself dating at some point in the future but I’ve not-cared to look for it for about 2 years now and I really don’t think I’m missing much. Funny enough, I’ve been to a handful of weddings in last couple of years, and the young married guys seemed kinda down about married life.

Delifier · 2020-03-07T23:09:38+00:00

Have you ever thought what you are actually getting out of a "date"?

2020-03-07T23:52:21+00:00

You are lucky as hell you know you got cheated on. That gives you a clean break knowing you left a bad person. What happens to MOST men is they have a good hunch she's lying about things, either currently, or recently, or at the beginning, or about her past. But they can never prove anything, and they can never get an accurate honest answer out of her. That shit will drive you insane and ruin your emotional well being. Even if you do decide to walk away, you can spend years wondering if you did the right thing, and if you weren't actually the problem in the relationship.

Consider yourself lucky.

SoranoV · 2020-03-08T04:09:14+00:00

I flip wrecked cars instead of dating. I bring home stacks of cash every weekend.

Bouaiben · 2020-03-08T05:45:27+00:00

why would a sane man want any of these shenanegans

Title	How do you guys do this?
Author	jokertriad
Upvotes	54
Comments	39
Date	March 7, 2020 4:43 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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