I am alone

o0perfect0o · 2019-06-02T19:27:44+00:00

I care about you.

801735 · 2019-06-02T19:30:45+00:00

You're not alone in the realization you're alone. Welcome.

NathanHollister · 2019-06-02T19:29:24+00:00

You're not alone. You have us.

tdh792 · 2019-06-02T19:44:37+00:00

We're all alone. People will only give a shit if they have something to take. And not necessarily material possession.

I sense you are very apathetic too. There are many things that you are telling yourself that are not worth it when they really are. Look for some new hobbies. Pick up an instrument, play a new sport, challenge yourself. Make some new goals!

Ron-Don-Volante · 2019-06-02T19:31:23+00:00

It wont always be this way. Remember you are an island unto yourself.

johnnydh85 · 2019-06-02T20:11:46+00:00

I can really relate to this post. When I was more social, it was only because I was the one putting the effort into what few friendship I had. I decided to quit being the one to always initiate things. No calls. No texts. I'm really starting to believe that no one would give a fuck if I died tomorrow. I bet if I won the lottery, that would change real fucking quick. Phone would be blowing up.

2019-06-02T19:35:05+00:00

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Pruny85 · 2019-06-02T19:45:51+00:00

dont try to change your mom, accept her how it is. my mom died last year and i cant turn back time.

krugerand9 · 2019-06-02T19:33:41+00:00

Try to focus on the positives in your life. Did you realize that you live in the most advanced civilization on this planet that EVER existed? Enjoy the internet, your wheels, your clothing , your longer life span and food from all corners of the globe. And if you have good health thank the lucky stars. Being alone is small potatoes my friend.

ThrowawayGhostGuy1 · 2019-06-02T19:56:00+00:00

When trolls ask why we always “post about women,” they should read this post. We’re here to share stories and let other men know that they’re not crazy and they’re not alone.

JayJayEcks · 2019-06-02T20:13:05+00:00

Alone today, solitary tomorrow.

That's the goal.

You are an individual, a human doing.

suhmydudessssss · 2019-06-02T20:11:38+00:00

You know there are ways to meet people on this subreddit...

Neroxist · 2019-06-02T21:34:34+00:00

Man I feel the same way.

defiance211 · 2019-06-03T00:11:05+00:00

Brother! This community gives A big fucking fuck about you. We are to build ourselves and our fellow man up as high as we can make eachother ascend! DM me if you ever need to vent or just bounce ideas. I’ll listen, read, and give you total unbiased feedback!

throw_7 · 2019-06-02T20:32:51+00:00

Yep. Although give it some years and usually your family will come back around and care about how you're doing. Might not though, kind of depends on the family and how destroyed it is or not.

VenomTentacles · 2019-06-02T20:38:24+00:00

This entire subreddit supports and is ready to guide and listen as needed, friend. We may all not know each other but we have a bond that'll be hard to break.

jarofjamesbrown · 2019-06-02T20:52:32+00:00

When you came out the womb you were alone, and when you die, you die alone, between those times you will meet alot of people, but if you can't accept being alone your no better than you were the day you were born.

PS.every one else is in the exact same situation, it's just most people are too stupid to realize it.

sagilny · 2019-06-02T21:20:19+00:00

Dr. Peterson wrote in his book that friends are merely the exchange of trades. You must be able to offer something on the table.

Jokes Comfort Fun Resources

CastandRefused · 2019-06-02T23:11:43+00:00

I've felt this way my entire life, even though I have a pretty supportive family, I practically have no friends, my only good friend died last year, he was basically the only man I connected with in my life I will miss him dearly. At my core though I am a lone wolf, I walk my own path. Just know that you are not alone, it gets better, men can thrive in solitude, our outlook on things is important. It can be tough depending on your individual situation but don't ever give up, accept things as they are and try your best to move forward as a man going his own way. Take care.

Chill-BL · 2019-06-03T09:41:35+00:00

Take solace in this fact:

but I figure it's better than living a lie.

Because quite frankly, it's the only solace I have yet found. (Truth as being one of the highest of goods).

RedPilledSimp · 2019-06-02T21:06:56+00:00

My advice OP: take the leap of faith and accept you're being alone, embrace it and love it. There's nothing scary about that. In fact it's one of the most liberating feelings you'll ever feel. Why? It's the exact same number of people you were with when you were born and when you'll die. Your happiness doesn't depend on people around you. Not at all. Like Mooji said: "You need nothing to be happy. You need something to be unhappy."

Conaywea · 2019-06-02T22:05:31+00:00

You are alone, you can take it like you want. Like this

treesplease12 · 2019-06-02T23:04:28+00:00

You may be disposable to your family, but you aren’t to us. May you meet a wonderful MGTOW friend in the near future, but until then - don’t be a stranger on here

Shnook82 · 2019-06-02T23:40:47+00:00

Eh, that's life in a nutshell. No one is going to care about you as much as you care about yourself. If you're someone who tends to keep to themselves and do their own things, this is how your life is going to be. Its nothing to be sad or mourn about, it's just how it is. The self-pity and sadness will pass.

ColdStoryBro · 2019-06-03T00:45:14+00:00

Well you, like all of us, were always alone. And you made it through everyday that way so far. So what changed now? Should your realization tear you down or make you even more confident in yourself?

mangoapplepear · 2019-06-03T01:06:46+00:00

Life is better when you don’t care about societal standards and start doing things your own way.

johnnydh85 · 2019-06-03T01:22:52+00:00

Actually I nerfed this also. Clearing debt . Hitting the gym again. And well reached out to 5 peeps. I know peeps are busy . But damon the only ones that respond aren't even in the state I'm in . Um. Seems a pattern. Keep your heads up and minds clear . On to higher learning now

mgtau · 2019-06-03T01:55:16+00:00

One can be alone without being lonely. You'll make it there. It does get better, and it will be OK. As always, this sub is here for you. And, in being your true self, you will find and make friends that are friends for the right reasons. Those are the ones that stay with you.

KujoSadao · 2019-06-03T03:03:01+00:00

I relate to you, OP. The only difference is my family has been supportive of me. I don't have any real friends, they will only contact me if I am of some use to further their goals.

But that is where you should relish in being alone. You can do what you want, you don't have people dictating terms to you. I have witnessed a few married colleagues who were dragged by their wives in the early morning for yoga sessions even though they pulled all-nighters for work the night before.

The worst part is, she will drag him to meet her friends but forbid him from meeting his. Think of it OP, at least you are not a leashed dog like these simps and you have the freedom for your own interests. Once you indulge in your hobby, you are never alone again. Look at Keanu Reeves and his motorcycle collection.

Carpe diem

cnctec90 · 2019-06-03T04:12:01+00:00

Being alone isn't so bad. Sitting on your ass in your underwear, eat whatever the hell you want, and can do whatever you want. I recommend you get a hobby, something you can sink your teeth into, after doing so look for a group that are into that hobby and join up to make some friends interested in what you are. I've made some great friends building cars with people. The great thing about cars is it's a time suck, you don't have to own one or have money to help out a buddy and you can drink while you do it lol.

You are only as happy as the actions you take to fix the issues you are unhappy with. You can beat the hole you're in I promise you. Be patient and want to do things for yourself. You got this!

DaBiff184220 · 2019-06-03T04:36:45+00:00

You are alone, but now that you know this truth you can actually enjoy life more and live for yourself

HotN00b · 2019-06-03T04:51:47+00:00

stay strong mate.

Adal345 · 2019-06-03T05:07:25+00:00

I respect your considerations and totally endorse them. People like you (and me too) live a dry life, but not a lie, you got it right. It's like living in a desert, but a desert where you can dedicate your life to yourself, where you can pursue any dream you have (play guitar? drive a jet sky? have a tiger?). This only is possible because you have no obligations with a wife, a couple of children, an alcoholic brother-in-law, a broken friend, etc, etc, etc.

Observe the nature. Look how many species have their males living completely alone (do you want an example? https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cougar). They only encounter a random female to a quick fuck a few times in life. We aren't that different. "Society" is a term that someone came up to justify the lack of space which forces us to live so close one from another. Good luck! Wish you the best.

NoCharism · 2019-06-03T05:12:04+00:00

i realised that people dont care, because everybody has his/her own dreams, or problems to deal with, they dont want to deal with anybody elses problems on top of that and i accepted it

the only person that would care about you, at least in the short term, is a woman looking for a partner

thats what i understand about this world.

Desolatrollz · 2019-06-03T06:41:40+00:00

We are all a big family here

[deleted] · 2019-06-03T07:18:21+00:00

Loneliness is a feeling. It's just a matter of perspective. Being alone is a fact. Focus on the things, you can change, like your feelings and see things as they are, not how you want them to be. All of a sudden, you enjoy being alone

Ridzzzz153 · 2019-06-03T07:56:40+00:00

Solitude is a blessing friend. All this free time to yourself, find something you like to do and keep yourself occupied man. I have said it before and ill say it again, there is so much do and so much to learn.

Mchooofer · 2019-06-03T10:13:46+00:00

No one cares about anyone.

call_me_sensei · 2019-06-03T12:56:51+00:00

I care about you and many others like you, I wish we could all just sit around a bar and have a much needed laugh.

Just remember your not alone in this circus... Just gotta keep on grinding but remember to slow down and enjoy life.

Poofysmoof · 2019-06-03T13:24:16+00:00

Every relationship in life is transactional, the sooner you accept that the sooner you can enjoy life as it is. The best thing about it, is men here are telling you how it is instead of learning it the hard way.

[deleted] · 2019-06-03T14:13:31+00:00

I care about you. like you I also became alone after confronting certain people but I also think having only yourself to think about is more liberating, they now try and barrage me with guilt and shame because they have nothing left. stay strong brother God bless you.

[deleted] · 2019-06-03T14:26:15+00:00

Hey.

Try to find peace in the fact that you are alone. Nobody controlling you, nagging you. Your place in the universe is all up to you. Being alone isn’t such a bad thing.

Bl0tt0 · 2019-06-03T14:44:34+00:00

Only comment I can make is to get a motorcycle. Not only will your mind forget about anything/everything going on as soon as you start it. You will have a new hobby. You'll meet some amazing new people. You'll see some wonderful places. It's a total win all around. I have plenty to occupy myself, but when my bike is down or it's winter I'm not the same person. Motorcycles complete me...

[deleted] · 2019-06-03T17:41:40+00:00

You've taken a very important big first step in understanding our world. With wisdom comes sadness.

MikeHockinya · 2019-06-03T17:48:19+00:00

Alone doesn't have to mean lonely. Fire up any multiplayer game, and kill shit together with other folks. Take a stroll over to the sports bar and hang with the folk there. Take up a hobby like drone racing, and get into races. Grab the dog and your fishing pole, and hit the river. Go to the local games shop and find a DnD group. For the most part, I spend my days alone, but not lonely. With a good dog by my side, and the occasional visit from my kids, I'm good to go

HoldenBalzac · 2019-06-03T17:50:21+00:00

It could be a lot worse. You could be trapped in a loveless marriage, denied sex, denied friends, married to a woman who has Bipolar or Borderline Personality Disorder. You could be trapped with a woman who uses your child as a hostage. You could be blind or paraplegic and stuck with an angry woman as your care giver. I've known some men in those situations. Alone is a great relief after that. Alone also means you're free to do whatever you want, go wherever you want. If you need companionship, get some dogs from a kill shelter or a rescue society.

jamocadyn · 2019-06-03T18:06:40+00:00

Welcome to reality, son. The only person who gives a fµck about you 100% of the time, is that guy who stares back at you in the mirror. Now--go and make something of yourself...someone you would be proud knowing.

FoxtrotUniformDelta · 2019-06-03T00:41:54+00:00

To the OP, or anyone else reading this - it's always going to be ok. Not in a hokey, dismissive, empty advice kind of way.

You get used to it, even when you think you aren't. Be as based as you need to be in life and don't worry if people keep dropping off because you're being real about their shitty behaviour.

Most people are shitty losers, most peoples parents aren't what they built them up to be. The strong bond you had with your mates diminish when they explore female and family pursuits, your parents are as flawed as anyone else.

Go your own way and realise even if you had a huge family around you and a hundred friends that it's only ever really you with yourself. Everyone should be practicing that being enough for them. If you only find 'your people' on here then so be it. You can use as much or as little of it as you need when you want to escape your life for a bit.

Always hit people up privately in this sub too. It takes a lot of heat from outsiders as being harsh but I'd bet any man on the other end would listen and help any way they could.

BigAl4lyfe · 2019-06-03T01:25:32+00:00

You are not alone anymore than any great thinker or explorer. Trust the process, walk away. It gets better.

ILoveJuices · 2019-06-03T01:10:20+00:00

Let's go for a bike ride bro

totorox · 2019-06-03T01:15:11+00:00

give attention and care to get some back

just dont sell it cheap

nickcostley1 · 2019-06-03T05:09:51+00:00

Stay strong brother.

Some_dudE1234455 · 2019-06-03T21:46:32+00:00

"I'm Alone"

MGTOW: aight bet

Title	I am alone
Author	NeroHarp
Upvotes	193
Comments	63
Date	June 2, 2019 7:26 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW
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