AITA for refusing to financially support my best friends girlfriend and be a father to his son.

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Ok so this out of the blue and I need to know if AITA?

I (24M) am the heir to an enormous amount of money. I won’t get into it but my grandad owns a lot of land and property all rented out.

I have been friends with this guy since we were 8 and we have been best friends ever since. Brother close. Our parents even let us spend a week at each other’s house.

So this friend has a (1yrM) child with this girl who I am not particularly close with. My friend recently passed away in a car accident.

It devastated me and my tight friend group, all from childhood. My friend didn’t have the same luxuries as I have been granted so he had nothing to give his child. His family have nothing basically.

Well, we’ve been meeting at a friends house since lockdown was lessened and just drinking together. Today I came in and there were my buddies, his girl with his kid and some random people. I didn’t know what was happening so I thought they’d invited more people than usual but then they basically said this.

“We’ve has a vote and decided who would be a good provider for friends family. Since you were practically brothers, make enough money (my grandad gives me property and let’s me rent it out), more than you need even! Your young and fit so we have decided that you will take up friends role.”

I lost it. I’m grieving and these people just decided to try pull this on me. I told them that the hard truth is that there is another single mother in the world and that I will not support nobody and I don’t plan on being a father until later on in my life.

She then said “At least let me stay in the guest house!” I told her fat change and that the only reason you slept there is because of my friend.

She started bawling and then the kid started crying. The girls looked like they were gonna cry and some of the guys were fuming but some had an “I told you so face”. I left and got spammed with messages.

People I wasn’t even friends with were messaging me. A few guys asked if I was ok like my other close friends but some mutual friends were also calling me a bad person. My moms family even know and are calling me an a-hole but my dads are saying it was justified.

I was generally shocked and need someone to tell me if I’m wrong and what I did wrong. I’m grieving and feel totally blindsided.

AITA?