75 DoD - That's a wrap!

AlohaMaui808 · 2020-06-08T09:16:23+00:00

During the last 75 days:

The biggest habit I changed is that instead of trying to fix symptoms, I now look for ways to improve, automate, or delegate systems, in both my career and personal life. I look for ways to free up my time to do more of what only I can.

While I definitely lost lower body strength, I made across the board upper body gains. The gym is finally open again and the iron is joyously re-embraced.
I lost 25lbs and 7% BF to get below 15%, and I plan to stay below 17% while rebuilding my lost gains and passing previous PRs.
I cleaned, rearranged, and organized my space and made plans for how I will make it all work as a single father with 50/50 custody
For a second time in 6 months I pared down my wardrobe and bought a select few new items, leaving only the things I wear with pride that bring out the best in me, mentally and with my new physical changes.
I made more progress with Game in the last 75 days than I have in my entire life, and I have plenty more work to do, because apps are like tilapia in a barrel and I want some fucking wild caught salmon.
I gamed out how and when I will be able to financially get into my own place, and what milestones I need to hit, short, medium and long term, to get there.
I took the stellar track record and relationships I built running the facility I was just in, and used it as a stepping stone to parlay into the next opportunity to grow and further prove my worth to the company and people who make the real decisions, rather than sinking back into my drone job. The product I'm selling, for now, is Me.
I met more new people in person during the last 75 days of COVID lockdown, than I did for the entire year before that. Some men, many women. I had engaging and interesting conversations with people I never would have even made eye contact with last year.
I finally internalized a few difficult Red Pill truths. They are painful, but finally I also realize that the only one truly holding me back, is me. I'm the only one who can decide what I will do with the rest of my life, and how I will spend the rest of my most precious resource, my time.
I didn't work out 3 days a week consistently, I could be in an even better place physically than I am now.
For 30 days I prioritized chasing pussy over everything else, this was (and still is even with my reduction in time spent on plates) an exercise in ego protection and validation addiction. Plating has undeniably had its benefits, but I need to continue to focus on my self improvement over all forms of gratification that come from interaction and sex with these women.

All in All, a massive success. Not without its hiccups and glaring imperfections, but movement in the right direction nonetheless. I look forward to maintaining and building on these gains.

part_wolf · 2020-06-08T13:51:01+00:00

I didn't exactly set out to run up the dread ladder during quarantine, but here we are.

I bought a shotgun. I hit a 200lb push press PR. I got some custom tailored shirts made. I paid off a bunch of debt. I renovated our kitchen. I fucked the shit out of my wife.

The greatest impact on the family dynamic was inviting the in-laws to stay with us. I faced the anxiety I had of those interactions falling apart and I was hell bent on keeping everyone on track with the mission. They've moved back to their apartment and everyone is coming away better from the experience.

The biggest lesson learned was around my social life. I've connected with friends and a few other redpill guys during the quarantine and strengthened my social circle.

A quick example.

The guy that owns our CrossFit Gym is good people. He and I have been friendly for a while before quarantine, and my wife has invited his wife and son over for a few playdates with our daughter and we've gotten to know their family a bit over the past year. I kept our membership active during quarantine mainly to support his business so that we'd have something to come back to when the gyms opened up again. I also told him to let me know if there was anything else we could do to help him or his family. We started talking more often, and he opened up to me around the struggles he's had with his business through the shutdown.

An 80-foot Oak tree fell and crushed my truck this past week. When my wife mentioned what happened, he simply said "I'll be over with the chainsaw in an hour." I didn't even have to ask for help, he just showed up and we got the tree cleared in no time.

Some things are made easier by sharing the burden.

The "get shit done" attitude creates positive feedback loops with other men. Positive feedback loops are critical to having healthy relationships in your life, and having a healthy network of personal relationships is a key to living a successful life.

I've made progress on working on my own abandonment issues and I understand now that the resentment and cynicism I've had for a long time is keeping me from getting what I want out of my relationships. Each of these connections with other men contributes to me accomplishing my mission, and I don't take them for granted. As u/Red-Curious said, "You can't learn how to be a man without being around other men."

I do want to call bullshit on one thing in particular from his post: "Dread is literally impossible if you never leave your house." Clearly this man has never invited Instagram thots to lift weights in his garage.

ancient_resistance · 2020-06-10T16:18:29+00:00

Shit I did:

Lost ~10lbs, ~4%bf, and maintained all lift numbers. Back at the gym posting gains.
Switched to IF/keto diet.
Installed a fence, fire pit/patio, swingset, and tool shed.
Dialed in hygiene and style with new shampoo, body wash, boots, and shoes. Maintained haircut with at home kit.
Built a cornhole set.
Increased emergency fund. No new debt.
Improved a public codebase that adds value to my resume.
Set boundaries with wife and kids. No longer allowing open disrespect from either. Working on becoming respectable.
Went solo camping to face myself. Began turning self-hate into self-respect, again. Ditched the dancing monkey circus.

BP me would have done none of that and complained like a bitch the whole time. Life is good.

RStonePT · 2020-06-10T13:19:40+00:00

Pride isn't a strong enough word for my work here

SorcererKing · 2020-06-10T03:29:25+00:00

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Stoic_Mind1 · 2020-06-09T04:08:32+00:00

Amazing what can be accomplished in a little over two months with significant focus and dedication.

Lost about 29 lbs since starting this process, the majority of which occured in the last 2.5 months. Eliminated alcohol and nicotine. Improved sleep quality and hygiene. Went from 0-2 weak pull ups to now adding 20 extra lbs and knocking out 6-8 per set, similar with other bodyweight exercises. Improved game & kino and completely upgraded my wardrobe. For the first 30 days I was able to meditate 1 hour daily before work came back full force. Set longer term goals and am well positioned. Posted every week, finished the sidebar including MRP & TRP resources, I'm still learning every day.

Most importantly, through this process I’ve realized some hard truths, worked through anger and resentment, shit tests, comfort tests, and handling the inevitable chaos of life.

By setting and finishing these goals, I've learned a new level of self-respect, which is apparent in how others react to me. If you live in your frame, you set the standard by which others treat you, the wife is no exception.

Lastly, one thing I’ve learned about myself is that despite whatever is thrown my way, I have the internal capacity to refocus on my goals and my mission. Global virus, riots in the streets, chaos can swirl around the world but internally I am not shaken. On to the next challenge.

the_man_i_want_to_be · 2020-06-18T17:03:21+00:00

Weeks 3, 4, and 8 had the biggest impact on my behavior. Weeks 1, 2, 6, and 7 were all good shit but I feel like I was already pretty tight on those parts of my life.

I'm dressing way better, taking care of my skin and hair, and it's showing.

Red's social guide combined with Blarg's conversational guide is already paying off.

The only week that I don't feel is well in hand is week 5 game, but I'm getting laid all the time anyway so I'm doing something right there. Might be worth considering some light catch and release to sharpen those skills on people who haven't made a long-term decision to fuck me.

All considered, I'm not a different man than I was 75 days ago, but I'm a noticeably sharper version of myself. I love the topic breakdowns, I think they add a lot of dimension to the content here.

magicm222 · 2020-06-08T06:21:45+00:00

Week 4. Seems the post is no more available on user’s profile. some others too

Title	75 DoD - That's a wrap!
Author	SorcererKing
Upvotes	25
Comments	16
Date	June 8, 2020 4:38 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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