Disappointing Father's Day

stonepimpletilists · 2016-06-19T20:19:40+00:00

Expectations will kick your ass every time.

I don't know how old your son is but if play doh is still in the picture you should keep them low. Sorry dude.

WhiteTrashKiller · 2016-06-19T20:04:34+00:00

Men do, women feel......

Educate your son that it is ok to share hugs with other men, his emotions. Teach him to be thankful for his days on this Earth, no matter how hard the day is a day above the ground is better than in it....

Unfortunately when you leave the hen house to be managed by the biggest Hen you get a product of them. Communication is the key, she is your XO. If the Battallion Commander is away, are PT and morning formation still required? Let her know that she should follow your lead and delegate to the troops in your absence....

Thanks for serving Brother........

stonepimpletilists · 2016-06-19T20:29:56+00:00

Guess next time you'll let your family know when you're available. Then you won't have to be angry that they have to guess when they can call to love you.

Also, hows your CoC allowing you to moonlight? You a reservist?

Adderallabuse · 2016-06-19T22:54:16+00:00

Expectations are covert contracts and are the hallmark of pussies who live in pussyville so start being a man and start telling your bitch what to do:

I am free at 5pm so have the kids facetime me then

It would be nice if women had the capacity to appreciate what they have. They don't. Accept it and take what you want from life instead of silently sulking and waiting for it

red_blue_and_hot · 2016-06-19T23:18:20+00:00

Just from the title: covert contracts and validation seeking.

Reading the post: yep.

Since you're just venting, you already know all of this. What are you going to do next time so this doesn't happen again?

BluepillProfessor · 2016-06-19T21:36:56+00:00

Man up soldier. All of us appreciate what you do from the bottom of our hearts. I mean that.

However, expecting a woman to appreciate what you do is likely to result in a long wait. Expecting your kids to appreciate it usually has to wait until about age 25.

Aechzen · 2016-06-20T01:04:37+00:00

I am angry as fuck

Go lift some heavy things, and think about something else. Anger is only useful if you do something productive with it.

Once, it would be nice to get some genuine, thoughtful acknowledgement

AWALT. Call it solipsism, call it entitlement, call it her 'using' you. All of those things are true, but it doesn't change that it's what you should expect from women.

Acknowledgement of the sort you're expecting doesn't happen often, and you should learn to not expect it from her. Sorry to be the one to tell you this, but lower your expectations about this.

screechhater · 2016-06-19T20:45:24+00:00

We all been there. You got to look @ the bright side, they are healthy and I am sure they will actually be happy to see you when home. Not a knock, but put some extra effort into birthdays, holidays with some planning and I am sure your next journey from home will be better

Need to stfu, lift and read sidebar You are a man, remember ?

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redearththeory · 2016-06-20T05:31:35+00:00

Start with leadership. Make a plan, tell your wife what it is, execute the plan. Don't rely on her to organize things.

Also, when I travel I don't facetime with my kids as much as I want because they miss me and it makes them sad. It's fun for me but, because they love me, not as much fun for them. You should definitely talk to your kids on father's day, but their hesitancy to speak might be related to the dynamic I describe.

ColdEiric · 2016-06-19T20:25:08+00:00

Once, it would be nice to get some genuine, thoughtful acknowledgement for what I do.

I thank you, from the bottom of my heart, for your and your fellow brothers' work in guarding the realms of civilized men. I am a civilian, who go to sleep comfortably, in gratitude, knowing that there are rough and violent men like you, who work day and night to scare the shit out those who would ruin our civilization.

I know that you might not give a shit about who I am, and that I might be wrong person, that you'd might want this from someone else, but still ...

Thank you for your work. Thank you for guarding and keeping order, wherever you are.

The_Litz · 2016-06-20T07:16:15+00:00

Dude seriously, if you had read anything in the sidebar we would not be having this conversation. When I saw your title I already knew here was a victim puke because someone didn't read.

Reading the post confirms it.

Ditch the ego, open your mind and listen. It fucking hurts at first but once you clear the blood and shit from your ears you will start hearing what the guys here are trying to get thru to you.

Persaeus · 2016-06-20T11:53:51+00:00

Hey OP, I spent all day with my son (13) on Father's Day mountain biking and swimming. He never once said Happy Father's Day, even though it was mentioned on the radio or by other people dozens of times, and I called my Dad on the way home. I saw the 16yo daughter for like 10 seconds in the evening and she did not even acknowledge which appears to be SOP at this age. You know what. I GAVE ZERO FUCKS and had an awesome Father's day because I DID WHAT I WANTED. Understand your wife gives zero fucks about your feelings. It is a feature, not a bug. Your kids will not directly appreciate you until they are adults and have their own kids.....if you are lucky. Your reward for being a father comes from inside knowing that you are all that stands between these ingrates and the big bad world. If you stop sulking and live in the moment you will often see your children's admiration in the way they look at you when your BEING THE MAN. That is all you get.

STP gave you all the actionable advice you need. Now act.

Countpudyoola · 2016-06-20T15:50:35+00:00

This has Nothing to do with their acknowledgement (they are too young) or the fact that I'm in the military

Glad you see this. If he's preschool or even early early grade school (just going by the Playdoh playing) he's got like 0 frame of reference of what this could mean to his daddy.

My dad died when I was really little, and he career military. I miss him severely that he wasn't around , for better or worse and appreciated 1000% what he did for us.

He was a textbook strong enough father figure that he outlasted his life and helped raise me by my ideals of him alone as my memories of him are scant.

As for the wife: just set it up better next time...it's really all you can do. Your expectations of her should definitely be limited to what you can set up. Not what she can anticipate. Glad you got the facetime, eventually!

bogeyd6 · 2016-06-20T20:02:46+00:00

If you are butthurt that you are gone for two weeks and the wife is not falling head over heels to please you. I don't know what to tell you.

Title	Disappointing Father's Day
Author	coltspaw
Upvotes	8
Comments	63
Date	June 19, 2016 7:48 PM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MarriedRedPill
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