Handling Shit Tests

amisamiamiam · 2016-03-07T21:44:56+00:00

translation : 0-60 in no time flat in a rickety station-wagon is not sexy and does not do much but get your tranny fucked up

alphabeta49 · 2016-03-08T00:21:28+00:00

You don't care. It doesn't matter if she complies or not at this point because you haven't earned enough respect yet. In fact, you consider this exchange a success because you started setting a new tone and had fun with it. You are pleased with how you escalated the conversation from "come to papi" to "bring that ass here to papi". The fact that she didn't take the bait doesn't matter since you are chuckling at how clever you are. In fact, you are filled with joy because you are starting to live the life you want without being afraid of what she thinks.

The above paragraph is 100% serious.

The one big, fat, glaring problem is how you had to consciously decide not to go say hi. My guess is you probably thought up some way to excuse your absence, just in case she questioned you on it. Unless you framed this entire encounter as a giant test for her, it was too try-hard.

Like others are saying, it needs to be more natural. You should be more naturally busy because you're an awesome man with important shit to do.

Unlike others are saying, I say you should continue doing things like this. Don't always STFU if you have those seductive, AM-esque one liners on deck. Let 'em rip and see where they land. It'll give you data points to judge the effectiveness of your MAP, and it'll give you practice for when she actually does start taking you seriously.

Redneck001 · 2016-03-08T03:21:12+00:00

"ummm ....try again."

You: Nope. goes back to work

Test passed.

SexistFlyingPig · 2016-03-07T22:03:37+00:00

I think you did just fine.

This is a good start with maintaining frame. She chose not to enter your frame, and that's okay. Don't act butthurt. After you're done in your office, I'd go out and ask her if she's okay. What you did was playful and fun and she treated it like a power struggle, like she was entitled to your undivided attention whenever she even came into your presence. So, keep it light, and don't worry about it.

Do you even lift, bro? A big chunk of MRP starts with you improving yourself. I'm not going to critique your gains nor criticize them, but just mention that for some people, that's where to start. Are you dressing better? Is your haircut nice?

edit: That's what scurvemuch's comment was: Do you have the gains to back up your change in attitude?

cj_aubrey · 2016-03-08T03:35:17+00:00

"come on over here and say hi to Papa"

In your frame.

"ummm ....try again."

Compliance test.

"my bad...I meant to say bring that sweet looking ass over here and say hi to Papa."

A & A. Not bad.

I just continued working and let her go without saying anything further.

STFU. Still in your frame. Valid response.

That looks like progress compared to this.

In the past, I'd immediately get up...go greet her, and essentially orbit around her. Asking about her day... give her a hug, etc.

Holding frame and some decent responses like this win the battle. You win the war by being so attractive her body can't say no. Keep lifting. Keep improving.

bzzltyr · 2016-03-08T00:31:40+00:00

My wife would be turned off 100% by any papa or daddy refs.

i know its just an expression "come to papa", but thats her hangup.

War2kali · 2016-03-08T01:01:44+00:00

Sounds OK. Possible "nicer" alternative for next time is when she pops her head in, smile and say a simple "Hi Hon" and continue working. If she wants to come in and chat, that's fine, if not, finish the work and come out when you feel like it.

[deleted] · 2016-03-08T01:22:49+00:00

It's just a vain attempt to have her orbit you. You took your training wheels off and fell over...big deal. Now it's time to pick the bike up and try again.

When she walks through the door, if you're genuinely busy working on something, continue working on it. Say 'hi' but that's really it.

Why?

Because you're busy working.

If you're not busy working, then be doing something that doesn't involve you trying to seem like you're not orbiting your wife. You are.

Be busy because you are busy, not because you're trying to appear to be.

Make sense?

marin_guy · 2016-03-08T04:57:17+00:00

A very similar circumstance to myself. I would often come home from work later then she would and she'd always be upstairs in the bedroom doing whatever. I would always go immediately up to the bedroom to say hi and orbit around. She would never come down herself. One day i got sick of it and stayed down, eventually starting dinner. She finally came down after 20 minutes and gave me a light hearted ribbing, "you never came up to say hi?!". etc.. I just gave her a kiss and kept on making dinner. It felt great and was the beginning of a subtle shift that i am continuing to work on. I think generally you did fine but like a few other guys have commented I would have left the verbal as a 'hey babe how's it going', and then kept on working.

battmaker · 2016-03-08T07:34:42+00:00

You did the right thing and probably made her excited.

[deleted] · 2016-03-08T14:48:49+00:00

Echoing the chamber here: forget about it. Give less fucks.. nothing to see here. You're dialing back the orbiting. She'll buck the new trend. You handled it well, you just have to keep it up.

BluepillProfessor · 2016-03-08T18:01:58+00:00

You tried a basic compliance test with your wife and SHE failed. Next time try an even more basic compliance test:

"Come here babe and give me a hug" may be less "creepy" than "bring your sweet ass to papa."

ParadoxThatDrivesUs · 2016-03-08T00:51:59+00:00

Not greeting her at the door is fine. Good first step. Two problems with the line "Bring that sweet ass over here and say to Papa":

It's creepy.
It sets you up for "failure" if she doesn't comply, because there's no Plan B. She walks out and you either sit there or chase after her. It's almost like you gave her a shit test ("Comply with my request to walk over to me") and she passed it by leaving. Smacking her on the ass as you walk by is better.

Title	Handling Shit Tests
Author	Nicholas1515
Upvotes	14
Comments	30
Date	March 7, 2016 9:30 PM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MarriedRedPill
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