Recently married (<1 year) with small problems, going to take the RP approach with my wife..

RPAlternate42 · 2016-03-06T02:39:52+00:00

RP is not an approach to your wife; it is an approach to YOU.
You can't do anything to make her a better wife. You improve yourself and lead and she will conform to the improved you, naturally.

If you go at this with her in your mind or she is the reason you are doing things, you are going to make your oneitis worse.

wanderer1976 · 2016-03-07T00:12:06+00:00

You are married. While it is true that you can not be the source of her happiness, you also should not be the source of her misery. In the same way that she can not ultimately be the source of your happiness and should not be a source of misery for you. However, one of two things will happen if you don't take care of this, either way the sex will dry up and you will be miserable.

LTR or marriage is built on the ability to be able to be vulnerable to each other and to try and meet each other's needs. That goes from companionship to things like orgasms. A lot of women either have trouble achieving or having an orgasm strictly from penis in vagina sex. (Though in my experience, once a woman has the first one of a session, it can really be off to the races.)

Try this, if she masturbates have her take your hands and show you how she likes it. You will probably be a little surprised at what you find. Just work it in when your in bed. Once she is showing you, use your other hand to caress her breasts and nipples. Do it right, and the rewards are pretty great.

If you like her giving you blowjobs, you better be willing to reciprocate and do a good job at it.

Your wife is asking you to become a more attentive lover, and standing in the mirror and flexing while talking about how great you are just isn't going to get it done.

stonepimpletilists · 2016-03-06T13:32:51+00:00

Step 1. Remove your head from her ass.

Step 2. Fix the little boy, he's pretty brutal

Steel 3. sidebar, and the same work everyone else does, you're not special

snaptogrid · 2016-03-06T04:36:39+00:00

Athol Kay's book is great.

HelenBeck · 2016-03-06T03:46:51+00:00

Orgasms for her come to mind. No pun intended.

Jessie_James · 2016-03-06T15:04:57+00:00

As others have mentioned ...

What kinds of things can I do everyday to make her a better wife?

Make yourself the better man and husband. It's more about you improving yourself and acting more attractive, more masculine, and so forth, than trying to change her.

Trekneck · 2016-03-07T13:21:27+00:00

Sidebar. There's more in there. See ASKMrp for future basic questions. Lurk on MRP to see how others are handling situations and implimenting RP into their own lives.

Second, shift your focus. RP is not for your wife or your marriage. It's for you.

alorian · 2016-03-07T16:04:04+00:00

My wife does love me

Not how you think.

What kinds of things can I do everyday to make her a better wife?

What are you, a dumbass? You think you can just change another person because you want to? Change yourself. Read the sidebar. Read the books in the sidebar. It's "Course Prerequisites" not "course suggestions". Or did you not read the sidebar? Get to work already.

I've read the rational male blog and other sites, and I understand the principles, but how can I incorporate those into everyday life?

Read it again. Read more. Read the books. Put in the actual time and effort or you won't be able to reap many rewards.

Stop fixating on your wife and her actions. She's trying to tell you what to do, she's collecting beta orbiters, what else is she doing? That happens when she wants you to pass shit tests and make her drip, or you're dropping the ball all over the place.

ColdEiric · 2016-03-07T21:40:24+00:00

Read No More Mr Nice Guy, by Robert Glover, Married Man Sex Life Primer, by Althol Kay and When I Say No, I Feel Guilty, by M. Smith. Read them.

Read all of them. I'm single, and I have read NMMMG and WISNIFG; both of the books have done wonders for my interactions with both men and women. Every relation I have, family, friends, acquaintances, strangers, every relation is better, because of those two books. Women hit on me more than usual.

Go lift religiously. No matter how I feel before, I always feel better after.

Read books which interest you, and which you find useful for yourself.

Know that you're the prize in the marriage. In christian theology, the woman is the helper. In theology, The Church is likened to a woman, and Lord Jesus Christ is The Man. That means that she is for you. She is at best, your helper and a follower of You. Love her, but don't let her fuck herself up, within your power. If she decides to fuck herself up, it's on her. Take care of yourself first and foremost. Go, do your thing, and lead her if she decides to follow you. If she doesn't follow, go do your thing.

abdada · 2016-03-06T02:12:46+00:00

Google 12 levels of dread is a great starting place.

And the sidebar.

BluepillProfessor · 2016-03-06T16:25:04+00:00

What kinds of things can I do everyday to make her a better wife?

Be an attractive man desired by other women. That is MRP, NOT "Dancing Monkeys" (although we also do that plenty of that) but "Strong/Masculine Men"

Title	Recently married (<1 year) with small problems, going to take the RP approach with my wife..
Author	enwegwerfkonto
Upvotes	8
Comments	19
Date	March 6, 2016 2:09 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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