"Responsive Desire" -- Successful RP?

Countpudyoola · 2015-06-22T16:11:38+00:00

If you start complaining that your wife never initiates but is always available it begs the question of what are you seeking from having her initiate?

My wife's fairly old school self conscious feminine. She wont jump on me , but there's times when I was busy and she has the idea first and (like yesterday on fathers day), note the kid is napping mid day (she never does this) and ask me if we should "take advantage of it".

That's initiation enough for me (as a reminder), but had she not, and I suggested it and she didn't turn me down it wouldn't have changed the sex.

Feminine women generally don't like doing this and if she is feminine then count yourself lucky. I always found that the higher the apparent testosterone in the girls I dated (and I dated a few like that) the more likely they'd start humping my leg when horny. And while that was fun, it came with a shitload of either: crazy, bad attitude or new wave feminism.

battery_licker · 2015-06-22T17:10:26+00:00

I've had some success getting my wife to initiate more often. I paid a lot of attention to what I said or did right before times when she was genuinely horny. In my case, that was physical stuff. If I pick her up or she sees me working out, she quite frequently initiates sex shortly after.

So my question to you, OP, is: do you know what gets your wife horny? If you can name a handful of techniques that have a high success rate of getting her in the mood, you can focus on doing those things and she will naturally tend to initiate more.

dandar4600 · 2015-06-22T17:19:41+00:00

1) Athol Kay wrote "The bull doesn't complain that the cows don't initiate". I think I wouldn't worry about her not initiating. Some women just aren't wired that way.

2) Also my wife's initiation attempts sometimes are to turn towards me in bed and scooch over a bit closer. In other words, she may be very subtly trying to initiate but still has ASD shields up to be able to deny it. You have to pay attention to her signs.

3) When I was BP and 50 pounds overweight, my wife almost never initiated and we never had sex during daylight. Yet during the last couple of weeks she very overtly initiated twice. Once was come home for lunch, I'm feeling frisky. The other time was we had an hour to kill before going out on a weekend. My daughter was watching TV in our bedroom, she dragged me downstairs and we made use of the couch.

We've been together 18 years. Sometimes all it takes is a change in attitude and change in your SMV. I'm not sure where you are with both and how long you've been red pill aware. Best bet is lift, read and proceed at your own pace.

RPAlternate42 · 2015-06-22T17:40:37+00:00

My wife is also more responsive than initiating; I think this is one of the differences between MRP and TRP.

TRP talks about "panties dropping" but this is because those women don't have a "life-mate," and they need to constantly administer mate-retention behavior in a forward fashion to secure the mate they are interested in.

Wives, on the other hand, will make themselves sexually available, at minimum; they don't need to be as forward with sexual wants because you are there, in front of them; they have you already... AWALT.

My wife's forward desire is usually her rubbing my chest, stomach, and crotch. It's typically slow going and she gets turned on most by me being aggressive. She is submissive and always has been.

She won't climb on top and be a sex tart unless she's buzzed, but she will do whatever I want when I want it and considering our marriage before RP... that's a huge win but I'm never complacent.

theultmatecad · 2015-06-22T22:38:10+00:00

You're fine. Women are the guardians of reproduction and dont generally initiate. Not saying it never happens but thats my experience and that of many other men I have read.

JonnyJaded · 2015-06-23T13:02:54+00:00

See I was like that too. I'd get irritated that my wife never initiated. But I've come to realize that she does, lots. She just doesn't jump on me. Its just subtle cues that the old BP me never noticed.

95% is a pretty bold statement. Unless she is a squirter, how can you be sure?

I guess there can be "duty sex" BJs. But as long as its enthusiastic, who cares? BJs are very submissive for the woman. She wants you to dominate her. Get to it!

Title	"Responsive Desire" -- Successful RP?
Author	tbknow
Upvotes	8
Comments	30
Date	June 22, 2015 3:54 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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