Previously: Link

First, sincere thanks to everyone here for advising me to slow down. I am still quite early in my MAP, and have been tightly wound up with firing on all cylinders lately.

I picked my wife from airport arrival, then parked right there at the parking, and pulled out my own luggage as well. Surprise! We are traveling to a nearby big city for long weekend! She was grumpy and pissed that she is tired from week long travel, and wants to go home and just relax etc. I just smiled and told her not to worry, just chill. Checked in at a hotel, all the while she is complaining she doesn't have clothes for vacation, and I tell her just stay in hotel room naked, with a smirk. Not received well, but at least she quit whining about it. Later that night when we got back to room, I revealed that I had packed for her as well.

I had located a nice dive bar with the type of music I love, and couple of rounds later, she is starting to chill down. I have made enormous efforts to be just happy and excited about this trip, and not letting her mood affect mine at all. AA/AM when I could think on my feet, else just smirk and STFU. Back at hotel, I initiate and am rewarded with starfish sex, I go caveman.

Next day, I have bunch of activities planned and but never told her in advance what we were supposed to do. She was annoyed half of the time threatening to go back to hotel if I didn't tell here where we are headed next. I handed her one of the room key and told her, feel free to miss out on fun. At lunch, as she returned from restroom she found me talking to a HB8 sitting alone at next table. She hasn't been out with me much lately, so I could see she was surprised I now talk to other women too. Later she told me there were couple other instances at the bars and river cruise when she found other girls eyeing me up. And by end of second day I found her massaging my arms/biceps more than usual while walking. Thanks to newbie gains at gym, there is more muscle than fat now. I initiate and she doesn't resist but later comments twice in two days is too much, and wondered what has happened to me. Again, my lizard brain didnt have anything to say so I just smirked and STFU.

Last day was just relaxing at waterfront, and she was taking forever to get ready, so I told her I am going out for a walk and coffee. Chatted up a college age couple, and another 2 girls, just talking about touristy things. She joined me after an hour and during the walk, and we crossed the girls, and they waved excitedly and we wished each other have a great rest of the weekend. Wife wasn't sure what was happening. She asked me about lunch plan, I told her we will leave in 15 minutes after the live performance we were watching finishes. 5 minutes later she says let us go back to room and fuck. I said, yeah, just 10 more minutes until the performance finishes, and continued to enjoy. We went back had a good time. And if I recollect this was the first time she had initiated in as far as I can remember.

So, what happened to the boundary? Well, I took all the sage advice here and just acted as if everything was normal. She brought it up and said she can understand why I would be angry or worried. I just nodded with serious face, and moved on. And later I see this post on TRP Link and realized I was in no position to set the boundary as beta bux. As I keep improving my SMV, she will either start following it herself, or I will be move on. As of now, my primary goal is to up my game, and get stronger/bigger in gym, and start meditation to calm down a bit.

Edit: Just want to add that, this vacation was not a reward or punishment for her. I realized I was stressed and needed to unwind, and this was a long weekend. Yes, I got some fantastic inputs on improving my planning and execution from all of you, below. Also, this is not to say I am out of woods now. All I want to convey is that I was not ready for a nuke decision. I still need to work on myself for now and that is what I am focusing on. As for this marriage, if it will survive or not, if she will start following my lead or not, I don't know and at the moment and I will worry about it when time is right.