When should you call it quits?

BluepillProfessor · 2015-04-06T17:29:03+00:00

I would say if you are not married that marriage, in general, is a mistake and men should walk away, spin plates, and sell their exclusivity very, very dearly.

If you are already married when should you walk away? I think there is a loose consensus that men have an obligation to try to repair a bad marriage. I think that consensus is you should take at least 6 months and upwards of a year or more to improve yourself, Alpha up, respond to Shit Tests, and build your attraction.

If, after that 1/2 - 2 year period of consistent improvement the marriage is still intolerable, that is the time to consider just walking away.

As for the criteria that make a marriage tolerable or intolerable? You- and only you- get to decide that.

ElGuapoMiguel · 2015-04-06T19:36:29+00:00

sorry to hear of your situation. That really sucks. I like what everybody said here. My only comment if she is bat shit crazy, you better prepare an exit without letting her know. Get evidence of the cheating and crazy behavior with the hope it might influence the judge. Get rid of guns, back up all important docs, copy of keys, start stashing cash, get a lawyer.

RedCML · 2015-04-07T13:21:32+00:00

In your situation, it is already time to call it quits. The cheating and erratic behavior are not acceptable or normal. We adhere to the philosophy of AWALT. This applies to the basic conditions of AF/BB, solipsism, hamstering, etc. Your wife's behavior is moderately psychotic.

Get your affairs in order. Remain detached from your anger. Develop an exit strategy. Divorce and child support are not the end of the world. Based on your description, it is likely even with these fees for ending your contract with her you will end up with more free cash.

There can be a better situation for you.

rediscover03 · 2015-04-06T16:55:16+00:00

Read the levels of dread, from the Wiki. Lots of good material that will inform this question, and will help you make your own checklist as objectively as you can. Good luck.

Soarinc · 2015-04-06T17:05:31+00:00

I'd say if she cheated, if she's a sociopath, if she's a terrible mother, if she's an alcoholic or addicted to drugs. Depending on your "locus of control" I tend to believe that women can be influenced to a reasonable degree towards more desirable behavior.

It's definitely a big decision and every relationship has its own challenges and struggles.

TooPrettyToDie · 2015-04-07T04:24:21+00:00

It depends if you are attracted to her at all.

In the past few months I have lost all attraction, and honestly don't care what she does any more.

My plan is to live seperately in the same house (as her parents did while she was growing up) until a better option comes along or the kids are old enough for me to leave

Starcruiser28 · 2015-04-08T15:30:42+00:00

I would tell her she needs to get medical or mental help otherwise we are through.

It might be hormonal.

Title	When should you call it quits?
Author	tdreampo
Upvotes	5
Comments	37
Date	April 6, 2015 4:22 PM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MarriedRedPill
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