feeling the need to be trans, even though I'm not, just to feel some kind of love from someone

MartianCavenaut · 2022-04-18T23:18:00+00:00

Get your T levels checked out. Might very well be the case that you need more T in order to feel right.

Someoneoldbutnew · 2022-04-19T17:59:19+00:00

Your worth isn't determined externally. Just being alive and having a body makes you worthy and capable of bliss and love.

Peptocoptr · 2022-04-19T22:27:36+00:00

I've felt the same way at one point. Starting to work out was the best decision of my life partly because it helped me get rid of the remains of that mindset. The grass isn't greener on the other side. It's a shame that many women don't understand this, but it is what it is. The male experience is so different from the female one that it's like being someone dying of thirst in the desert watching someone drown at sea. It's so unrelatable that you can't help but feel like the other side is so lucky. Trans people are kind of like the gateway that allow us to relate to relate to each other, and even they can confirm that both genders have thier pros and cons that make it impossibly complex to figure out who has it worse (unless they already had a feminist agenda prior to transitioning). Despite that, it still feels like men and women are more divided than ever before, and it's fucking sad... To go back to my advice in question, I can take you to the water, but I can't make you drink. Hit me up if you need fitness advice. That's what I'm most qualified to give you. I agree with the other comments in the thread when it comes to mostly everything else. We're all gonna make it bruhs. I have faith you will too

Arguesovereverythin · 2022-04-18T20:24:11+00:00

There's a difference between love and desire. What you said about women online, that's desire not love.

You don't need to look a specific way to get love. You get love by loving others.

When was the last time you told someone that you love them? What makes you feel like you love someone? When you find that person,make sure they know it.

Also, be careful who you love. Some people Will try to take everything from you and give you nothing in return. When you run into someone that's a black hole of neediness, put in some boundaries and keep looking.

Gumi_Sama · 2022-04-18T19:31:55+00:00

I shouldn't need to go work out, change my jaw line with surgery, and a million other things just to be loved by someone.

FatherOfLights88 · 2022-04-19T07:26:26+00:00

It's very important to draw a certain distinction here. What they're getting is not 'love'. They're getting 'attention'.

You're running a deficit of both love AND attention, as the two very much go hand in hand. They are, however, distinct from each other

The way I understand our world is that women are often not the providers of love. That's what men bring to the table. To get the kind of attention you're seeking, it's important to increase your 'attractiveness'. It gets harder and harder to feel attractive when we've been without anything for so damned long.

I've got a question for you:

Do you like yourself?

Alarming_Draw · 2022-04-21T19:52:15+00:00

No shit-I think a lot of men are looking at womens lives and then their own and how badly men are treated and thinking-"why are we treated so badly just because of our gender?"

MaximumAbsorbency · 2022-04-19T16:42:37+00:00

Why do you think being ogled or fawned over like some kind of disposable object is how to feel "loved"? I think you may need a shift in perspective, king.

surrealstrength · 2022-04-19T21:04:42+00:00

Don't mind me but... Are you trying to be something you're not? Just so you could get the physical attention you want from someone who could mean something to you?

Title	feeling the need to be trans, even though I'm not, just to feel some kind of love from someone
Author	Gumi_Sama
Upvotes	17
Comments	32
Date	April 18, 2022 7:30 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MenSupportMen
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