How are men supposed to express their anger or their frustration in a world that refuses to listen to them?

Cyb3rd31ic_Citiz3n · 2021-08-25T05:43:35+00:00

If you look around and see no heroes to help, be the hero. Be the change you want to see in the world.

I'm currently working on promoting a local men's mental health charity at my work place and pushing for them to offer spaces to said group so it can grow.

I'm also giving good, adult advice to my friends on how to have a mentally healthy relation ship with another man.

This is two examples of a small thing you can do which will make men's lives better. One is social and the other personal. Once men start to see other men fighting for them they too will want to fight for better treatment.

Find the things in the world you CAN change and work from there.

DelRMi05 · 2021-08-25T12:34:13+00:00

It is extremely frustrating to watch from a distance and feel helpless. But the real problem here is the hate that gets manifested. Hate alienates you from your cause. You may think it's a passion that drives you, but it can be incredibly counterintuitive.

I think step 1, to your point, is to normalize talking about it. And hey, we're doing that now. The first step is typically the hardest. Step two, as another commenter pointed out is to be the hero and the change you want to see in the world. Take on that new mantra and your worldview has the potential to change drastically.

Join a help line, charity, or community. I did a little digging myself and I plan on looking into this organization to become a mentor: https://www.sharethestruggle.org.

I understand the reference to the dog biting back. But I think that in this case, showing compassion for others and making a difference can be a lot more rewarding.

I hope this helps!

a-man-from-earth · 2021-08-25T05:39:21+00:00

Violence is absolutely not the answer. What we should do is raise awareness, recruit more men to our cause, and organize, the way feminists have done. We are fighting an uphill battle tho, as people have a natural empathy for women, but lack of it for men. So we need to emphasize egalitarianism: equal rights and equal treatment.

So, try to convert your anger into activism. Make the world a better place by helping fellow men.

I suggest following @thetinmen on Instagram, and join us over at /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates for broader discussions.

And ignore the haters. If they affect your mental health too much, avoid the spaces where they spew their hate of men. I stopped using Twitter and Facebook for that reason. I limit my Reddit activity mostly to the subs that are positive and don't engage in too much rage-baiting. I put my mind off negative things by focusing on my hobbies.

empathylion · 2021-08-25T13:42:33+00:00

What are you angry and frustrated about ?

What concerns are not being listened to ?

Please be a lot more specific.

alphamsh · 2021-08-25T22:27:34+00:00

We live in a society that punishes men for expressing themselves so it is best to focus on yourself, your career, your fitness, and live for yourself. When people actually show interest, then you can choose to invite them into your inner world.

Arguesovereverythin · 2021-08-25T14:03:16+00:00

There's only so many times you can kick a dog before that dog bites back.

Before you do anything else, remove the person kicking you from your life. If you don't, then you are correct, you will eventually lose control. So get away before that happens.

I really do hate this world and the people in it because it feels like no one cares about me or the people around me. We suffer constantly and if we ever talk about that misery, we're demonized and ostracized.

If you aren't surrounded by people willing to fight for you, stand up for you, support you, then surround yourself with different people. It will be hard at first. You will feel lonely - at first. But you'll come out stronger and happier than you've ever been. Right now, I have the best relationships I have ever had in my life because I stopped giving attention to the poor relationships and started investing in the better ones.

IAm-What-IAm · 2021-08-25T15:43:06+00:00

Society loves to say that men need to open up more, be vulnerable and talk about our feelings but then turn around and reject what we have to say when it doesn't fit their agenda or beliefs. The vast majority of these people who preach this shit just want to virtue signal and appear as if they care about men and men's rights so that they can't be called out and exposed for not actually being as egalitarian and pro-gender equality as they claim. They care about ONLY women's rights and the men's rights that benefit women as well, otherwise it's useless to them. They aren't truly for egalitarianism when all they really want is to see one gender rise while the other either stagnants or declines.

fearsclave · 2021-08-25T11:08:59+00:00

They don’t. Our feelings don’t matter. Nobody cares. And expressing them doesn’t help much anyhow: the root cause is still there, only you’ve just spent an hour of somebody’s life using them as an emotional barf bag. So now their life sucks a little too, until you stop.

Expressing your feelings just feels a little better for a few minutes. Once you’ve stopped, you’re still in the same situation, only you at most might have gained some temporary sympathy while possibly damaging your audience’s respect for you. Fixing your problems feels much better. Suck it up, control yourself, carry on, and if you’re really upset, maybe consider looking at your life and fixing what’s wrong in it.

Don’t get me started on “feeling safe”.

happygloaming · 2021-08-25T19:53:24+00:00

Definitely not violence, that will not help. I'll echo the other comment that asks for specifics, not because I don't understand your general point, but because if you want to address anything you must do so with calculated precision one issue at a time. This also must take place against a backdrop of learning how to live happily in your own skin. You must develop methods to release your anger and hatred for both are toxic regardless of the situation we find ourselves in.

The way forwards has 2 aspects. The first is to gain control over yourself, for you will not be a useful addition to any movement or struggle until you are able to navigate your way through the injustices of the world while maintaining acceptance of the realities of life and control over your inner chemistry set. The second is that once you are satisfied you have some measure of insight and control and therefore may be of use to others, you must find these others, find your people and serve them. None of it will be easy and much will fail, but a difference may be made.

Tranquilizingasmr · 2021-08-26T10:59:19+00:00

This is one of the realest and one of the most emotionally posts I have seen. Everything you have written in this post, a lot of us men have seen. My former bible studies mentor was destroyed by something so petty. His wife divorced him and took the kids, and she has made it her soul mission to destroy this man. It hurt me a lot to even hear his story. This mentor of mine is the nicest person you will ever meet. He wouldn't even hurt a fly or an ant.

Title	How are men supposed to express their anger or their frustration in a world that refuses to listen to them?
Author	Playful-Reporter6577
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Date	August 25, 2021 5:21 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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