Inconsiderate roommates

McBoom0 · 2022-12-28T05:10:37+00:00

Move out or ear plug.

If talking to him won't help then he won't change. Don't waste time. If you feel that it's more troublesome then work with your nice roommate to see if a rule can be established

VeryNovemberous · 2022-12-28T15:21:45+00:00

Sucks dude, sorry about that. How does your other roomie feel about it?

I'd start looking into the process of switching rooms. It shouldn't be your first option but may have to be your last one, and you'll want to be prepared for it. Be mindful that your next roomie might be just as bad or even worse, so you're best off trying to fix the situation you're in.

I'd try to sit down and talk with him about it during the day time. You're just going to have to be really direct and assertive. See if your other roomie will weigh in as well. I can't imagine it doesn't drive him nuts too.

Do ask him if there's a reason he's doing it--ex, maybe the person he's talking to doesn't get off work until then and they really don't have other times to talk during the day. In that case, he still needs to go outside, but try to empathize with him.

Then if he starts up again, well, I guess it just depends on how assertive you are. You could just immediately go and talk with him about it. "Hey, we talked about this, and you agreed to stop." Don't leave him alone until he leaves or stops. You could try to be loud enough that whoever he's talking to can hear you. You could team up with your other roomie. All of this is kind of situational.

Alternatively, look into noise canceling ear muffs for sleeping and turn a box fan on "high" for white noise.

You could also try to talk with the RA and see if there are rules about quiet hours or if they have other guidance to offer. You've already asked directly him to stop, so it's okay to do this now, but I would still do one last daytime discussion first if you have stomach for it.

Arguesovereverythin · 2022-12-28T20:48:17+00:00

So you have a TA? I would ask them to help mediate. Maybe there are others that have the same issue and you could all swap rooms.

surrealstrength · 2022-12-29T20:48:02+00:00

I've lived with the same situation and I know how you feel. Sleep is very crucial especially when you're a student. If he isn't listening to you and if your other roomie isn't standing up to him, it's better to switch rooms or move out because you're gonna have to deal with this every night, and that will take a toll on you. Confronting him could be of no use as well. Perhaps complaining to the warden could help?

Title	Inconsiderate roommates
Author	KingBacon42069
Upvotes	16
Comments	6
Date	December 28, 2022 4:52 AM UTC (11 months ago)
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