Anyone else disillusioned about romance?

World-Three · 2026-02-22T07:38:31+00:00

I don't feel disillusioned as much as I feel uninvited to express those emotions.

When everything is physical and pretty much nothing is intellectual, there isn't any way to bond without immediately having ulterior motives. I'm talking to her because she's attractive. Because we're not already talking, why would I talk to someone I simply don't know, if I could talk to someone I don't know, who is also attractive?

There isn't a good segway to have those emotions or any gradual connection that would allow people to have a few mistakes or oversteps in a relationship without feeling like a complete strike out. If you say something explicit to someone who you don't know, there isn't any foundation that can catch the situation and serve as a safety net for what you've said.

A lot of romance or attraction to me is just frustrating due to the inability to effectively communicate through words alone. Liking, fondness, attraction, adoration and lust are simple words that need a level of detail that is just talk until I grab touch or hold them. You can say whatever you want, but doing something means more, and that sort of interaction is gatekept behind a courting process that is absolutely off putting. Seeing how much money I'll burn in order to communicate with them is like telling me to hold onto my emotions until they come around, but by the time they do, the feeling is gone.

There's also a inequality in the stage women exist on. If men are essentially always barking up a tree to women, there's no equally effective way to communicate with them. For example, going into her DMs, liking her posts, watching her videos or streams, subscribing or purchasing content, and otherwise engaging with a format of expression that doesn't prioritize an equal level of communication makes it where men are just trying to jump a gate where if women truly wanted to interact with them... They'd just open it.

They're not opening the gate, so I'm not jumping the fence. And since everything is about looks, we're not even friends.

Usual_Interaction536 · 2026-02-22T09:18:11+00:00

Everything starts to make sense when you realize that men desire women to a much greater extent than women desire men.

NCC-1701-1 · 2026-02-22T11:11:19+00:00

Romance is the delusional thoughts nature puts into your head so that you will stick around after sex and raise your kids. We evolved this way for survival and reproduction and that is all there is.

cpoyntonc · 2026-02-22T11:00:56+00:00

The male fantasy is closer to having any desires met

13hockeyguy · 2026-02-22T16:48:14+00:00

Agree with OP. The ultimate true and freeing realization is to understand that True romantic love is an illusion and doesn’t exist. The ONLY real love that exists is between normal healthy parents and their biological children. The rest is conditional and transactional feelings of oxytocin for the purpose of reproduction.

ElectronicAge7073 · 2026-02-23T15:08:04+00:00

Here's the thing depending on what you're looking for, the idealistic person in your head will never exist it's either you're projecting or you don't know them and you get fooled with limerence But I could be wrong though

Haunting-Stage5132 · 2026-02-22T06:15:25+00:00

Yea sometimes I fart in my wife's face and it stinks bad and shes like ewww tee heee heeee

Title	Anyone else disillusioned about romance?
Author	Aexaus
Upvotes	48
Comments	12
Date	February 22, 2026 5:47 AM UTC (5 months ago)
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