Can we swap out mansplaining

r_c2999 · 2023-11-07T14:00:36+00:00

womansplaining is definitely a thing. the attitude and sense of entitlement is exactly that.

elebrin · 2023-11-07T15:02:34+00:00

I just don't explain things to women. Instead, I do what they want: I assume they know more than me and talk at my highest level, over their head, then get annoyed when they don't immediately know what I am referring to.

I work in a highly technical role at the intersection of two particularly detail-oriented domains. My hobbies tend to be much the same. I can make people feel very lost and stupid if they demonstrate that they want to be a jerk.

90% of explaining something to someone else isn't about educating, it's ensuring that both people are speaking on common terms and understand each other. If I explain my understanding of what, say, an LC network in a radio is doing, it's not to inform the other person. It's to give them a chance to correct where I am wrong and inform me of their understanding. This is how human beings share information, by opening our mouths and expressing things. It's not a one-way thing, it's an invitation for you to correct me. If you push back, I'll ask questions and ask for evidence. This is how we get smarter and better informed.

If you tell women this, you tend get one of two responses. It's either not their job to educate you, or they don't want to be tested and you being "tiring." You learn not to engage with people like that.

BalloonPilotDude · 2023-11-07T14:30:51+00:00

I have less experience with a woman trying to condescendingly or helpfully explain stuff but much, much more experience with women generally indicating with looks, words and attitudes how incompetent they think I am.

This is usually from small easily corrected mistakes (even when I am approaching for the express purpose to find and correct such items) or when I don’t do things the same way they do them even if the result is the same and the process is less complicated. This is also accompanied by a general ‘eat shit and die’ look or biting words to me.

designerutah · 2023-11-07T17:43:57+00:00

I prefer the direct attack when someone says you or anyone is mansplaining.

“Excuse me, but I really don't appreciate the sexist remark. I’m explaining because we have several people in the audience and I’m ensuring we are all on the same page to start off with, which is one step to effective communication. Now if you want to take over with the broad explanation for everyone I’m happy to let you. But no more sexist remarks, okay?”

Difficult_Storage_96 · 2023-11-07T18:58:51+00:00

It just shows how insecure they are, they feel so threatened a man is explaining something, imagine having such an over inflated ego you cannot accept a man explaining something to you and you instantly make it about gender. Urgh. Such a entitled, bratty attitude.

CatacombsRave · 2023-11-07T15:44:42+00:00

Just say “condescending,” man. No need to stoop to their level.

LeoLittlebook6 · 2023-11-15T06:20:27+00:00

Girlplaining about mansplaining is draining.

Kir141 · 2023-11-11T18:28:51+00:00

I've noticed that women mention "mansplaining" when they want me to do something, but I explain to them how they can do it themselves.They don’t want to learn, they don’t need new information if there is a man nearby who “should” serve them. That's why the concept of "mansplaining" came into being. I propose to add a new term to the speech: femblabbing, that is, empty female chatter about insignificant things, which is so boring for men. And the reaction of women to this term is called “femsquealing”. I think we need a set of clear labels for different types of toxic female behavior to make communication easier 😉

Title	Can we swap out mansplaining
Author	coming2grips
Upvotes	25
Comments	12
Date	November 7, 2023 9:35 AM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
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