I feel like nowadays whatever a man says about his tastes in women it's wrong.
I like tall girls/redheads: you're sexualizing their tallness/readheadness
I like women with a hairy pubis: you are fetishizing them
I like women dressed feminine and sexy: don't tell them how to dress, you're objectifying them
I like Asian women: you have a fetish on Asian women, probably because you imagine them submissive and in gender roles, to flatter your fragile masculinity
I find this model is sexy: you should rather be interested in her intelligence
My friend's wife is very attractive, he's a lucky guy: it means you would like to fck her, you perv
Etc.

It feels like EVERY of a man's physical preference in women or the way he phrases it wrong and offends.

On the other side, complete freedom to say "I want just tall men"... "Hairy men are disgusting..." "Epilated men are gay"... "Bearbellied men are disgusting, how dare they approach a woman?" "A man should be self conscious and have an athletic body, otherwise how could I respect him if he doesn't respect himself?" "Calb men are so a put-off", "men with small dcks are pathetic" etc etc.

This is unacceptable to criticize one's tastes and this is a great thing all tastes are in nature. But this is unacceptable too that a gender can shame everyone freely and the other just have to shut up and have no preferences at all because "you should take a woman for her heart and character, not her body".
Sometimes I see woke mysayndrism (who to a certain extent is also woke mysogyny - or "interiorized mysogyny" as they might say) is just the fight of bitter ugly ducklings who overrate themselves, in denial of beauty and the fact physical attraction is in the laws of nature and should work both senses.