I’ve tried every step in trying to improve myself and my profile. I have good pictures, good and engaging prompts and I have a good career and hobbies, too. I’ve paid for “boosts” on Hinge - zero impact whatsoever. The strange thing is from like 2016-2022 I had no problem getting a decent amount of matches where I could actually have a dating life. Ive been told im handsome or cute from past relationships and dates, so it’s not like im a 1/10.

Now, I maybe get one to three matches in the course of three months, and the chances the girl responds to a message or there’s enough there to progress to a date are very slim. I know the “work on yourself” mantra some may throw at me, and I am. I worked on having nicer teeth and I’m exercising more.

But I can’t help but feel something huge is missing that I don’t understand. If the algorithms changed and I’ve done all I can do, I guess I need to figure out how to make peace with that reality, but I don’t know how. I just feel unwanted and stupid for even using these apps, swiping hundreds of times to get nowhere. I’m tempted by resentment and sadness and feeling lonely frequently.